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  • A Bowl Of Potato Soup In Rotorua

    A Bowl Of Potato Soup In Rotorua

    “What are you cooking?”

    “It’s like a potato soup thing.”

    “Is that like, a German thing?”

    “Yeah.”

    She had a pretty smile. Really straight teeth, too. I always liked girls with straight teeth.

    I turned back to my chicken, steaming slowly in my pan. Hostel kitchens are always interesting. Everyone’s trying to cook something healthy, but with the cheapest and lowest quality ingredients. There’s a sparse selection of kitchen tools. And there’s the whole international thing, too; the Asians are always boiling stuff, the Aussies are eating like four packs of instant noodles, the Brits usually go for a quick and dirty pasta, and of course there’s that one gourmet chef trying to make gnocchi or falafels or something. It’s the most diverse kitchen in the world, only the food quality is about as good as an upside-down prison.

    I peeked into her pot as I passed by to collect some cutlery. I cracked a smile. It looked like glue. Hot, steamy, bubbly glue.

    “Are you going to let me try it?”

    “Sure, when it’s ready,” she smiled.

    She was a petite little thing, dressed in simple shorts and a tank top, with a pair of dark-rimmed glasses. The typical travelling girl’s outfit.

    When my chicken was done I scooped it onto my salad and took it out to the dining area. Five minutes later, she walked around the corner and plonked her soup on my table, along with a plate of salad, salt and pepper, a glass of water, a fork and spoon, and an apple cut into quarters, all arranged nicely in front of me. I smiled inside. Germans.

    “It’s not the best soup I’ve ever made.”

    I looked it over, grinning.

    “Alright, here we go. Do you mind if I use your spoon?”

    “No not at all.”

    I took a small scoop, blew on it lightly and slurped it down. I didn’t know what to think. It just tasted like potatoes. Soupy potatoes.

    “Yeah. It’s not bad.”

    She laughed.

    “You can be honest.”

    “I’m always honest,” I said, smiling. “If it was shit, I would’ve just said, yo, this soup is shit.”

    We chatted away like old friends as we ate our lunches. I’d known her maybe fifteen minutes, but there’s something about meeting people in hostels. It’s like you already kinda know each other – I know this girl ain’t a princess because she sleeps in a bunk bed, I know she ain’t a rich kid because she’s not at the Radisson and I know she’s cool because she’s out here travelling the world by herself. It’s easy to talk to someone after that. You already have so much in common without even knowing each other.

    I scooped the last bit of salad out of my bowl.

    “So, what are you up to today?”

    “I don’t know, I’ll just go sit in the sun probably and do nothing. Then I have to go to work.”

    “Cool. Can I join you?”

    “Yeah, of course.”

    We spent the next fifteen minutes talking about where to go. I had just spent the weekend at a friend’s wedding down south, and had stopped in Rotorua for a couple of days to break up the long drive home. I didn’t know this city at all. She, on the other hand, had supposedly been living here for a few weeks now. I bugged her to think of somewhere cool. She was the local here, at least out of the two of us.

    When we finally made it out the front door she was still clueless.

    “Okay, so how about we drive,” I suggested. “You tell me where to go.”

    We jumped in my car and headed off. She directed me left and right through the town centre, along Lake Rotorua and then off on some road out of town.

    “Where the hell are we going?” I asked.

    “I dunno. Somewhere,” she laughed.

    As we chatted away, it struck me how absurd this would’ve been to me five years ago. Going off with a complete stranger, driving to nowhere, talking as if you’d known each other since graduation. People aren’t so open in the real world. You can’t just say hello to a stranger without them thinking you’ve got Asperger’s. I guess that’s why you can’t be away from the road for too long. You miss the openness, the traveller’s spirit, the ability to just say hi for the sake of saying hi.

    “So tell me, why do all Kiwis drive in bare feet?”

    I looked down at my feet. Indeed, I was driving in bare feet. I’d tucked my flip flops under the seat before we took off. I guessed it was one of those quirks she had noticed, the same way I’d been noticing them about her. I didn’t have an answer – sometimes there aren’t reasons for these things. They just are.

    Eventually, after leading me down some winding roads we found ourselves lakeside at a place called Blue Lake. There were a few people around, but it was mostly empty. I’d never heard of this place before. I guess she was like a local after all.

    “C’mon, let’s walk down there,” I said, pointing to a small enclave by the water’s edge.

    We sat out there and talked, on the rocks, throwing pebbles into the water like little kids at the beach.

    “So, I don’t even know your name,”  I laughed.

    “Don’t tell me though. I’ll guess.”

    She looked at me, grinning.

    “Okay.”

    “But you have to tell me the first letter, at least.”

    ” J.”

    “J..is it a German name?”

    “Yeah, it’s really German.”

    I didn’t even think.

    “Julia.”

    “What the hell!”

    She looked to the sky, laughing.

    “Is that really it?”

    She nodded, still laughing. I sent my own laugh to the sky. I didn’t even know Julia was a German name.

    We sat there for over an hour, talking about nothing, looking out over the glassy lake. It was easy to talk to her; she was youthful, bubbly and free spirited, not jaded by a cubicle or dead-end job. When you meet people out on the road, there’s a certain twinkle in their eye; not a metaphorical one but a real one. You can see it. In the office, it’s nowhere to be found. Eyes are glazed, uninspired. But on the road, the eyes shine. You can’t miss it. It’s a difference as clear as night and day.

    We spent the rest of the afternoon sitting out there, talking about life. It was playful, relaxed – a reminder of the simple joy of doing nothing in the company of another human being. In the morning we’d been strangers. Now, friends. I flirted hopelessly. She laughed at my cheesy jokes.

    I didn’t see her again until the following evening. She walked into the kitchen while a few of us were sitting on the benches chatting, and gave me a smile as she came to flick on the kettle beside me.

    “Hey you. Do you want tea?”

    She was wearing all black after her shift at her waitressing job. Her dirty blonde hair was up in a small ponytail, glasses on, not a speck of makeup on her. She looked nice.

    “Sure.”

    She pulled two cups off the shelf and popped in the tea bags.

    As she passed me my cup, I noticed how short her nails were and smiled. Over the last few years I’ve developed a theory – the longer a girl’s nails, the crazier she is. I hadn’t sensed any crazy in her the day before. I guess the nails were just an affirmation.

    We stayed in the kitchen that night, tucked in the corner, chatting away until one in the morning. I have no idea what we talked about – travel, Germany, school, work, life – probably a bit of everything. I told her I’d take her on a date if she came to Auckland. She said she’d take me on a date if I went to Germany. It was fun to talk about, but we both knew neither was likely to happen. I was heading back to Auckland the next day and the sad reality was, we’d probably never see each other ever again.

    The next morning, as I handed my keys into reception and lugged my bag down into the car, I sent her a message.

    “I’m off. Come say goodbye?”

    I watched the ellipses flashing on the screen before it dinged.

    “Ok one sec.”

    She came out in her pyjamas two minutes later, still half asleep. Hair in a mess, sleepy eyes. I could only laugh.

    We sat in reception and chatted for five minutes. There wasn’t much to say. I liked her, sure, maybe she liked me too, but all we could really do was hug and say “It was nice to meet you.” As we walked our separate ways, I sent her a smile and wave. She sent one back. Then it was over.

    Five years ago, goodbye wouldn’t have been that easy. I might have dwelled on it, wondering what could have happened, where things might have gone. That’s the true challenge of life on the road. The long flights and the lost sleep and the rickety bus rides – you get over that stuff in a day. It’s the goodbyes that leave the marks. They come too soon and too often, each one chipping away at you, little by little. The road leaves you more what-ifs than you care to remember. But sooner or later, you accept this is just the way it is.

    When you travel, you don’t get to explore every story. The time between hello and goodbye will always be short, and that’s just a part of the life you chose. You can have the most epic boys’ night, and then suddenly everyone’s gone the next day. A second date with a pretty girl that never gets to happen, no matter how amazing it could be. But that’s also the reason we love it so much, because you never know what’s waiting for you at the end of the next bus ride. Perhaps a fleeting romance, a new best friend, maybe even a special someone who might just change your life. When you travel, there are stories waiting behind every bowl of potato soup. A simple hello is all you need to find them.

    To your next adventure,

    Bren


    Which hellos and goodbyes do you remember most from your travels? What short stories have made your trips memorable? Share them in the comments below!

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  • The 7 Women You Will Meet On The Road

    The 7 Women You Will Meet On The Road

    Earlier this year, my friend Trisha wrote a hilarious article titled The 7 Men You Will Meet On The Road.

    Of course I could never let the boys endure this slanderous exposé (okay fine, most of it was true) without a response. So ladies, here is what it looks like from the other side…I got you, fellas!

    The 7 women you will meet on the road:


    1. The Broken Hearted

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    Photo: ckaroli@Flickr

    Profile: She’s in her 20’s, travelling alone, probably on a whim and is a little nervous about it. Her recent relationship of 2 (or 3 or 4 or 5 or 6 or 7) years has just ended and she’s looking to the road for comfort and new beginnings. Why? Because she recently watched that famous horror movie, what’s it called again? Oh yeah, Eat Pray Love. Now she’s on her way to Bali in search of a personal sequel. She spends a lot of the time on the laptop, Facebooking with friends and writing emails. You find it weird how early she wakes up.

    Where you will meet: In the hostel dining room

    How you will meet: She’s reading a book and drinking coffee when you wake up for breakfast. You sit next to her and say hi, and soon find out she’s already been up for four hours.

    The scenario: You ask her what book shes reading (it’s a Nicholas Sparks novel), and that segues into all sorts of conversations. She’s fun to talk to. She’s not really a drinker, so the time you spend with her is spent chatting away in the hostel lounge, eating lunch or maybe even a visit to a few churches and temples. It’s been a while since she’s had to read signals so she might think you like her, but you really just enjoy her company. She’s a breath of fresh air, compared to those airhead 17 year-olds in your dorm.

    The ending: No tears here. Just a hug and a smile and off she goes. You’ll keep in touch.


    2. The Australians

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    Profile: There’s two of them. One’s a blonde, one’s a brunette. They wear tanktops everywhere, but never the same colour. They know everyone in the hostel, and it won’t be long before you overhear them telling someone else the exact same story they told you two days ago. You’ll always know when they’ve arrived back for the day because you can hear them laughing as soon as they enter the front door. You probably won’t even know their names, you’ll just refer to them as “those two Australian girls”, and everyone will know who you’re talking about. One day, you’ll see one of them without the other and it will stop you dead in your tracks. It’s like seeing Mary Kate without Ashley.

    Where you will meet: In your mixed dorm.

    How you will meet: As soon as you arrive and sit down on your bed they’ll talk to you as if they’ve known you since high school. They talk super fast, and always seem to finish each others sentences. You’ll be wondering whether they’re high, but they’re not. They’re just really friendly.

    The scenario: You’ll be at the hostel for a week, and you’ll see them every single day. They’ll always stop and ask about your day when you see them in the hallway. Deeed ya go to tha temple today? Deeed ya? Oh how good izzit!? They’ll ask you to join them when they head out for dinner, and you’ll find them drinking in the hostel bar every night. Most likely they’ll be at a table with a group of guys, teaching them all their favourite drinking games. Each night while you’re chilling in the dorm they’ll bombard you with personal questions, and tell you all their travel stories. They have a lot of inside jokes, and they’ll laugh hysterically at every single one of them. The accent will grow on you, and you’ll eventually enjoy kicking back with their meaningless banter each night.

    The ending: You’ll be sadder than expected when it’s time to leave. They’ve actually been a lot of fun. You’ll give them each a long hug and they’ll leave you with a smile on your face. You still don’t know their names.


    3. The Solo Adventurer

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    Photo: jorislouwes@Flickr

    Profile: She’s a machine. She’s travelled to over 50 countries and has every day planned out to a T. She’s older than you. She has a surprisingly small backpack but always seems to be wearing clean clothes and has an outfit for everything: sightseeing, gym, yoga, going out. You’ll notice she has really toned legs, probably because she’s obsessed with hiking. She reads every single night. For some reason you can’t quite put your finger on, you’re not really attracted to her. She’s pretty, though. And she’s probably the nicest person you’ve ever met. Oh and she’s a vegetarian too, obviously. But she still eats fish sometimes.

    Where you will meet: In the hostel bathroom, brushing your teeth.

    How you will meet: You’ll walk in and she’ll be flossing vigorously. She glances at you and smiles, and naturally you start to chat with a mouthful of toothpaste.

    The scenario: She’s way too cool for you. She’s been to places you’ve never even heard of. You’ll sit next to her a lot, especially during meals, because she has so many interesting things to share. You’ll invite her to join everyone for a drink, and she will, but she’ll only have one or two, and then the next morning, she’ll smile knowingly at you while you nurse your hangover like an idiot. She’s really easy to talk to, but conversations with her are different. They feel so serious all the time, but you find yourself learning something new from her every day. But eventually you stop asking her what she did today, because it’s always something like, well I woke up at 6, did some yoga, read 100 pages, wrote in my journal, went on the walking tour, ran 6 miles, climbed a mountain, submitted my research paper and now I’m here eating tofu with you, and it makes you feel dumb because you just woke up two hours ago. Even though you talk to her every day, she always seems to remain somewhat a stranger.

    The ending: One day, she just disappears. She left early and you were still asleep. You didn’t even grab her Facebook.


    4. The Charlie’s Angels

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    Photo: Tristan Bowersox @ Flickr

    Profile: There’s usually three of them, and they’ve been friends since childhood. There’s a 99% chance they’re still in university or have just graduated, and this is the big adventure they’ve been saving up for. Two of them look like sisters and the other one looks completely different, e.g two short blondes and a tall brunette. They do absolutely everything together – they wake up at the same time, drink the same drinks and probably even share clothes. They’ve planned their entire trip in meticulous detail, to the point where they’ve assigned specific ipod playlists to each of their upcoming bus rides.

    Where you will meet them: In the hostel lounge.

    How you will meet them: You’ll sit at their table and start chatting with them because one of them will be on “the laptop” and the other 2 will be sitting there looking bored.

    The scenario: You’ll become an honorary member of their group. They’ll always want to drink with you and will invite you to join them everywhere they go. You’ll become better friends with one of them than you will with the other 2, but that’s alright. Even before the trip is over, they’ll add you on Facebook and tag you in all their photos of their “Epic trip” album.

    The ending: Big hugs all round. Years later, they still send you stupid messages on Whatsapp.


    5. The How Did That Happen

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    Photo: pipiten @ Flickr

    Profile: She has a gorgeous smile. She’s from some faraway country, like Sweden or Brazil. She’s fun and bubbly, and has been on the road for a while. She works out, even while travelling, and you sometimes see her in her yoga gear as she’s arriving back at the hostel in the morning. She’s still in university, but already has her whole life figured out. You can sense her attitude the moment you meet. Something’s going on here..

    Where you will meet: At the gringo bar.

    How you will meet: You’re playing a drinking game and she calls you out on something. You study her eyes, wondering if she’s serious. Is she flirting with you? You don’t know. Next thing you know you’re all out on the town. She catches you at the bar while you’re topping up your drink, and it seems natural to offer her one. You stand there talking for a while. Now she’s flirting with you. Flash forward and you’re suddenly dancing with her. How did this happen? You have no idea. The cheap booze has bid your inhibitions goodbye. Before you know it, you’re kissing. Your friends are watching thinking you’re having the time of your life, but it’s all so ridiculous you’re actually trying not to laugh. As the night goes on, you somehow manage to exit the bar and find some privacy. And then it’s morning.

    The ending: You wake up. Where are you? Oh right, now you remember. When the two of you are finally conscious you start recapping how everything happened. It’s not even weird. You laugh about it. She’s really cute. But she’s flying out tonight. You spend the day together, nursing your hangovers and sharing a few laughs. Goodbyes are sealed with a kiss, and there’s no regrets. A few months later, you see she’s gotten engaged on Facebook.


    6. The Best Friend

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    Photo: Jacob Enos @ Flickr

    Profile: She’s cute, and you click straight away. But it’s not the lustful, romantic, gaze into her eyes click. It’s the platonic, comforting, we’ve been friends forever click. Maybe it’s because she looks a bit like Natalie Portman, and your type is more Alicia Keys. She laughs a lot. She’s travelled a while and is comfortable on the road, which makes her easy to hang out with, and she never talks about her ex. It’s all very Haley and Lucas.

    How you will meet her: You arrived on the same day, and bumped into her while she was lugging her bag down the hall.

    The Scenario: You’ll talk for hours and don’t even realise it. You’re not really attracted to her, but the next day you’ll find yourself looking for her, wanting to hang out. Unfortunately she wakes up super early, so she’ll be out somewhere already. Later in the day she’ll find you when you least expect it. You’ll eat all your meals together, have D&M’s, you’ll probably even take a trip together. You’ll share a bed, since you’re both nearly broke. But the night will just be laughing at each others muddy feet and you falling asleep while she’s blabbing about something. Soon you’ll be such buddy buddies that you’ll start sharing water bottles and she’ll do your laundry for you when you pretend to not know how. After about two weeks, everyone you meet thinks you’ve been friends since childhood.

    The Ending: You might’ve wondered if you liked her, but you didn’t. Of course, nothing happens. The goodbye isn’t as hard as you thought it would be, and years later, you’ll still be in touch.


    7. The One That Got Away

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    Photo: bertknot @ Flickr

    Profile: In the words of Taylor Swift, you knew she was trouble when she walked in. Her voice is strong and reassuring, yet vulnerable. Sexy. She has long wavy hair, just the way you like it. She’s tanned to a sun-kissed bronze. You love the way she dresses; simple yet sophisticated. You don’t want to admit it, but she’s taking your breath away. Eventually you crack a joke, and she laughs. Wow. What a beautiful laugh. That’s the moment you know it’s all over. You’re falling head over heels in like with this one.

    Where you will meet: Somewhere innocent, like a walking tour or a Couchsurfing meet.

    How you will meet: She’ll be travelling with a group of guy friends and you’ll shake hands amidst all the introductions. But she catches your eye.

    The scenario: She’s been on your mind from the moment you met. You get to know her, and she’s just as lovely as you imagined. After dinner one night, you take a walk. One hour turns into two, into three, into four. She hugs your arm as you wander aimlessly, arguing about who’s home country is better. It’s the most fun you’ve had since you left home. That night, you text her goodnight, but fall asleep before she replies. Turns out she stayed up waiting for a while, which is a great excuse to text her in the morning (to apologise, kinda). From then on you start spending the entire day together; breakfast, lunch and midnight snacks. You haven’t felt like this for a while. But you’re older and wiser now, and surely this can never be what you want it to be. Can it? But before you know it, you’re travelling together. One month. Two months. She’s smart, and funny, and looks incredible in that red and white bikini. Are you in love? No, you can’t be. Don’t be silly. But it’s slowly starting to feel that way. Maybe you are. Stop kidding yourself. You totally are.

    The ending: It’s time for her to go. She’s already pushed her flight more times than you can remember, and she’s due back at work in two days. You spend your final day together laying cuddled up in bed, wide awake, but silent. You don’t even know how to feel. And then she drops the B word. Baby? Bahamas? Bar Mitzvah? No, idiot, the other B word. That’s who she’s been Whatsapping with every night out in the hallway. She runs out of the room crying, and you’re too stunned to even move. Instead, you stay in bed and turn on the TV, catching up on the replay of last night’s NBA playoff game (the one you couldn’t watch, because she wanted to go to that night market thingy). The following day she disappears, and the next time you see her is in her wedding photos on Facebook.

    Now, where’s that Katy Perry CD…


    The good ones, the crazy ones, the beautiful ones - you'll meet them all on the road. Which ones have you met?