Tag: solo travel tips

  • The Life Of A Backpacker In Gifs

    The Life Of A Backpacker In Gifs

    They say a picture paints a thousand words but a gif can paint a million. Here’s 43 of them showing the best (and worst) of backpacker life. (more…)

  • Lone Traveller? 25 Expert Tips For Your First Solo Trip

    Lone Traveller? 25 Expert Tips For Your First Solo Trip

    So, you’ve finally done it. You’ve decided you’re going to quit your job (or take a shizload of leave) and set off on an adventure around the world…alone.

    Exciting, right?

    But being a lone traveller brings with it a huge amount of fears, doubts and second thoughts. What if you make no friends? What if you get sick? What if your bag gets stolen? What if you just hate the whole experience and want to go home?

    Let me tell you, every lone traveller has the same fears running through their head, and even after several years on the road I still get nervous when heading off on a new adventure. It’s normal, and you shouldn’t let it stop you from having the most incredible experience of your life.

    But, it helps to have a small idea of what you should expect, so below are my own tips for making your trip the greatest adventure possible.

    1. Set a date

    You need to make it real.

    If you just sit at your desk and say, “Hmm, I’ll do it this year sometime, or maybe I’ll just wait and see how things go and do it next year” I can promise you, it’s never going to happen. Especially with solo travel. There is always an excuse not to do something.

    Set a date, and book a ticket. That way there’s no going back.

    2. Save enough money before you go

    There is nothing worse than running out of money on the road. Some say you only need $5,000 to travel the world for a year. Others say $10,000 and some even say $20,000.

    The truth is, there is no ‘right’ number. Every traveller is different and wants different experiences that cost different amounts of money.

    My advice is, just save everything you possibly can while you’re at home. Give up all your meaningless purchases like Starbucks and shoes and sunglasses. Be the cheapest bastard you possibly can. Small change adds up, and in some countries a few dollars goes a very long way (for the price of a New Zealand coffee you could feed yourself for 3 or 4 days in some countries).

    3. Don’t be cheap 

    As a budget traveller, I’m always mindful of where my money is going. But sometimes you just need to splurge. Your budget may be tight, but don’t miss out on those tapas in Spain, or that Peking duck in China.

    When a unique experience requires some spending, do it.

    There are far more forgettable things you can forgo while travelling, such as expensive taxi rides, a nice hotel room, or an expensive night out on the booze. And 5 years later you definitely won’t regret the missing $30, but you will regret missing out on something special while you had the chance.

    4. Don’t sleep in

    You can sleep at home. I’ve continually regretted trips where I spent a lot of time sleeping from hangovers, jet lag or just pure laziness. As a lone traveller this is even more likely, as you rarely have plans or someone keeping tabs on you.

    I spent a week in Buenos Aires just drinking in my hostel and clubbing with my new roommates. I didn’t even get out to see a tango show, or try the famous steak, or watch the Boca Juniors play. A few years later, a guy in my hostel said, “You’ve been to BA? My gosh, isn’t it just the most incredible city ever?” and proceeded to tell me about all the shows and foods and places he experienced. Needless to say I hung my head in shame and told him I didn’t get the chance to see any of that.

    My next trip there will definitely be a whole lot different.

    5. Get a good camera and take photos!

    When I started this blog, I had so many stories I wanted to share and was so disappointed that I didn’t have the photos to go along with them. Weird as it may seem, I actually spent most of my time backpacking South America without a camera, as I thought I could just collect the memories ‘in my head’.

    What a fool!

    Now I make sure to take photos of everything, and am excited to look back on them all when I’m an old man in a wheelchair. Do yourself a favour and take as many photos as you can! And make sure you get a lot of good ones of yourself in all those amazing destinations.

    If you want to learn how to take amazing photos of yourself as a lone traveller, check out my guide here.

    6. Don’t forget the people back home

    I spend most of my time on the road these days, but I always make sure I go back home at Christmas and spend it with my family. I also stay in touch with my Mum and friends on Facebook/Whatsapp/Skype almost daily. I don’t buy gifts or souvenirs, because I don’t really see the point (unless I see something really special) but I always make sure to let them know where I am and that I’m ok.

    Just because you’re a globetrotter now, don’t think you’re too cool to stay in touch!

    7. Buy the right backpack

    Let me tell you, having the wrong backpack will make your life misery. And I say backpack because you really do need a backpack.

    Suitcases are clunky and and hard to move around with. Don’t think you’ll have beautifully paved concrete paths everywhere you go to seamlessly wheel your suitcase around, because you won’t. Sometimes you may unexpectedly need to walk through marsh, or floods, or muddy roads, or sand, or any other type of unfriendly terrain. So a backpack is essential, and you need to make sure you get the right one!

    Go to a hiking/backpack store and ask the staff there which backpack suits your body type. You don’t have to buy from them, but do make sure you get some expert advice. I personally use a hybrid backpack (a backpack with wheels on the bottom). 90% of the time I can wheel it around, but that other 10% I am extremely happy I have those backpack straps on the back. If you prefer carry-on only, make sure you’ve got the right size! This chart will help.

    Don’t forget, a backpack is like a lone traveller badge that we wear with pride! The more battered the better. So make sure you get something sturdy too.

    Want to see what’s in my backpack? Click here.

    8. Don’t overpack!

    When preparing to travel, lay out all your clothes and all your money. Then take half the clothes and twice the money.” – Susan Heller

    This might be one of the best travel quotes in history. After my last trip, I decided to “review” all the things I had packed. I realised that during my 6 month trip, I had packed around 7kg worth of stuff that I didn’t even use once. That included a pair of boots, a couple pairs of jeans, a beanie, some thermal clothing, a handful of shirts and some other miscellaneous things. Yet I’d carried these things all around Uganda, Tanzania, Ethiopia, Kenya, Singapore and The Philippines.

    I’m sure they enjoyed their overseas trip, but my life on the road would’ve been so much easier had I just left all that stuff at home. Remember, as unbelievable as it sounds, other countries have shops too! If you need stuff, you can buy it.

    9. Do some planning beforehand

    While I don’t suggest planning your entire itinerary out to the hour, it helps to have a few things planned before you go.

    Write down the cities and places you want to visit and how to get there, restaurants and dishes you want to try, the activities you want to do and also a handful of places you could stay.

    There have been too many times where I’ve arrived in a country with absolutely no plans, and spent the next 3 days in the hostel doing all my destination research. It’s a huge waste of travel time which could be spent out and about experiencing the city.

    Be smart and do your destination research at home!

    10. Make local friends

    After my first trip solo trip overseas to Spain, I was so amazed at all the new friendships I had made in such a short time. And then I realised, I didn’t make a single friend who was actually from Spain. If I ever returned, I would have no one to catch up with, no couch to crash on, no one to grab a drink with and reminisce about the ‘good old times’.

    This saddened me and from then on, I made an effort to get to know at least one local person in every place I went. Of course, I didn’t always manage to, but the times I did added such a different dimension to my trip.

    Just recently in Cambodia I was getting a massage and making small talk with my masseuse. She told me she was going to a birthday party later and so I just asked, “Can I come?” She looked at me with a smile and said “Of course!”

    Later that afternoon I enjoyed a karaoke party with a whole bunch of Cambodian people, tried some insane Cambodian street food, and made a heap of new friends. It was all quite a fascinating insight into Cambodian culture and the first alcohol-free karaoke gig I’ve ever been to.

    In the end, it’s all good fun just hanging out in the hostel meeting other backpackers, but connecting with local people can also offer a very unique experience. Couchsurfing is ideal for this, but otherwise, just say hi to people you meet around town (like whoever is sitting next to you on the train or at the bar). It may seem a little weird, but you won’t regret it.

    11. Bring an unlocked phone and get a local sim

    I never really understood this locking phone thing. In New Zealand there’s no such thing as a ‘locked’ phone, as far as I know, and it was only after meeting some American travellers where I learned about these phone networks hacking the phones and setting them to only be used on their networks. That’s fuarking lame.

    Anyway, sim cards in many countries are cheap and it’s easy to get mobile internet on short term packages (such as 3-day, 7-day etc). I can’t tell you how many times Google Maps has saved me from spending the whole day walking around looking for things that were right in front of my face.

    I used to be an advocate of just asking for directions, and still am, but quite often the local people will have never heard of what you’re looking for.

    Particularly if you’re planning on staying for more than a couple of weeks, getting a local sim is a no-brainer (and usually cheaper than roaming).

    12. Don’t get drunk (much)

    Travelling for quite a lot of people these days just means going to the beach and getting drunk for 7 nights and then flying back home. But do you really need to come all the way to Thailand to do that? I just don’t get it.

    I’m kidding. I totally get it. I’ve done that before too and it was heaps of fun.

    But if that’s all you do, you’re probably going to regret it. Maybe just spend half the time drinking and half the time doing other stuff, like trying local food and visiting local markets. Otherwise a few years from now you may look back on those drunken memories and think, “Man, I wish I’d some other stuff too.” 

    13. Don’t be afraid to take time off

    Travelling is exhausting sometimes.

    Maybe it’s all the walking, or just being away from home, or not being able to walk around the hostel naked like you do at home. Often it’s just the constant meeting new people and introducing yourself that can take it’s toll.

    When you get to that point, don’t be afraid to get a private room and just read/sleep/do nothing for a few days. I do it all the time, and it works.

    14. Learn the local language

    It helps to do this before you arrive, but it’s never too late to learn a few words. Everywhere you go, at least learn to count to ten, say hello and goodbye, please and thank you, and any other common phrases you might use.

    In every single country I have been to this has put a smile on people’s faces and makes them feel inclined to treat you that much nicer. Most guidebooks have a good common phrases section, but otherwise a simple Google search will give you all the free lessons you need.

    Want to learn to speak a new language in seven days? Check out my guide here.

    15. Get travel insurance

    I shouldn’t even need to include this but surprisingly there are still a lot of people who leave home without insurance. Travel insurance has literally saved me thousands of dollars while travelling.

    Once I had to see a throat specialist which cost around $700 in China. Insurance picked it up.

    Another time my Grandma passed away while I was travelling and I had to take a last-minute $2,000 flight from Tanzania to Sydney for the funeral. Insurance picked that one up too.

    Once I even got arrested by immigration on trumped up charges, and spent six weeks fighting the case. Travel insurance picked up the lawyer fees, and the “fines” I had to pay.

    Don’t be a travel dummy – get insurance! I use World Nomads.

    For my full guide on how to find travel insurance and why you need it, click here.

    16. Cheaper is not always better

    There was a time when I’d choose a $10, 25-hour bus ride over a $150, 2-hour flight any day of the week.

    That’s changed.

    A 25 hour bus ride is rarely just 25 hours. On a trip that long, you get exhausted. You eat shitty food. You feel worn out afterwards and want to get a good night’s sleep. The next day is spent in recovery mode. You’re lazy and sluggish from all the sitting around and sleeping. You just want to stay in and watch Game of Thrones. That 25 hours can quickly turn into 50 hours before you’re ready to jump out of bed and go exploring again.

    My advice is to take that 2 hour flight. In 4 hours you’ll be checked-in to your room, feeling fresh and getting the most out of your day in whichever city is lucky to have you.

    I also rarely stay in the cheapest hostel, and will happily take a $10 dorm bed over a $4 dorm bed if it means I get a good night’s sleep and am not stuck in some random place 45 minutes outside the city centre. Remember, your time is just as (if not more) important than money.

    17. Slow down mister lone traveller!

    A common mistake with first time travellers is they try and do too much.

    For example, with a month in South East Asia they might try and do 5 days in Thailand, 3 days in Cambodia, a week in Vietnam, 5 days in Laos, 10 days in Malaysia and a couple of nights in Singapore. Now sure, that does sound cool, but here’s the problem(s).

    • You’re going to be exhausted.
    • You’ll barely scratch the surface of each country.
    • You’ll spend a large amount of your budget on flights/buses/trains/taxis/buses.
    • You’ll spend a large amount of your time on planes/buses/trains/taxis/buses.

    On average, getting from your hotel in one country to your hotel in another country will take you around 24 hours of travel time (that includes packing, taxi rides, visa stations, bus/train/plane, customs, waiting for your bag and figuring out how to get to your hotel in the next country).

    6 countries = 6 days, which is 20% of a one month trip.

    That’s a lot of precious time spent sitting on your backside doing nothing.

    For a first time traveller spending one month in South East Asia, I’d probably recommend 3 weeks in one country and a short side trip to another (and maybe one additional country if you really wanted to).

    That way you’ll have the chance to really get under the skin of one country, while getting a nice little glimpse of another. Take your time. The world is not going anywhere (soon).

    18. Go on a date!

    One of the least talked about aspects of travelling is dating. Dating other travellers. Dating a local. Dating anyone.

    While the road is not the greatest place to start a long term relationship, going on a date can be a really memorable way to experience a city. A new city also offers endless date ideas (local markets, shows, plays etc) which will all be completely new to you and interesting to talk about.

    Ask out the waitress at breakfast. Or tell that girl in your dorm you’re taking her for dessert. Maybe even try and hold her hand (gasp).

    19. Stay healthy

    Too tired to head out for dinner. Not getting much sleep. No time to hit the gym. Drinking too much booze. Eating too much junk food.

    Things like this can make my health deteriorate pretty fast when I’m out on the road, and I’m sure it’s true for other travellers too (all the coughing and sniffling in the dorm rooms will tell you that).

    It can be hard, but make a concentrated effort to eat well and get enough rest. Sometimes you might just want to go to the supermarket and buy a bunch of carrots and apples and force em down. Or go for a jog. Or any other small thing that lets your body know you’re thinking about it. Look after yourself, because nothing snuffs out the excitement of travel faster than a few days fighting the flu.

    Read all my tips for staying healthy on the road here.

    20. Learn a new skill

    Every country has traditional sports, dishes and activities that the local people love to do. Have a go at the national sport, or take a language class, or learn to cook a local dish. Why? So you can go back home and show off, of course.

    And also for personal development, and all that stuff.

    21. Don’t get obsessed with getting “off the beaten track”

    There’s a disease in the backpacker community right now called “Too-cool Syndrome”, where some people who’ve been travelling for a while think they’re above all the cliché things to do in town.

    These kinds of people won’t visit the Eiffel Tower in Paris, because of course, they’re way cooler than that. They’re going to see some other tower in some tiny city that’s way cooler instead, because no one’s ever seen it before and they’re going to be the only person on Facebook with a photo in front of this cool other tower. Similarly, they won’t drink Sangria in Spain, or visit the Colosseum in Rome, or see Angkor Wat in Siem Reap, because of course, they’re too cool.

    Don’t become one of these people. There’s a reason why everyone does those cliché things, and a reason why they became cliché in the first place. It’s because they’re awesome. Don’t miss out.

    22. Get off the beaten track

    Of course, you should still try and do a few things off the typical tourist trail, because there’s a lot of great things to experience there too.

    The absolute best way to do this is by making a few local friends and getting them to show you a few of the hidden spots around town. Otherwise you can use apps like Trover, ask other travellers (travel forums/blogs), or just ask local people such as waiters/taxi drivers/hostel staff.

    Another good tip is to look for cities in the country that don’t have airports or train stations. They’re usually the ones less frequented by travellers and can give some unique experiences.

    23. Stay safe at all costs

    If you ever feel in danger, extract yourself immediately. You may feel stupid getting a taxi back to your hotel when it’s just a 5 minute walk away, but guess what; a whole lot of shit can happen on a 5 minute walk.

    If you see some unsavoury looking characters up ahead, don’t be afraid to just turn around and walk a different way.

    In many parts of the world, I never leave the hotel after dark if I don’t have a local male to walk with me, even if it’s just across the road to buy a Coke.

    Similarly, don’t get peer pressured into doing stupid things; there are a lot of idiot travellers out there who think they’re invincible, some of them are even looking for trouble so they have “really cool stories” to tell when they get home. Don’t be that fool.

    24. Experience everything for yourself

    No matter where you go, someone is going to have an opinion.

    “Don’t go to Vietnam, everyone’s unfriendly and you’re just going to get ripped off.”

    “Don’t go to Colombia, there’s heaps of drug dealers and it’s not safe.”

    “Don’t go to Switzerland, it’s so expensive and Berlin is cooler anyway.”

    Don’t listen to any of these people. In fact, don’t listen to anyone at all.

    Some of the coolest places I’ve been to are ones that other people hated and said would be crap. The only way to really know if you like a place is to go there and experience it for yourself.

    If someone tells you don’t need to see the sunrise at Angkor Wat, do it anyway. Maybe that person is an idiot and the sunrise will be one of your fondest memories.

    If someone tells you Thailand is overrated, go there and make up your own mind about it. When it comes to travelling, everyone’s experience is hugely different and even the bad ones are worth remembering.

    The best part of being a lone traveller is you don’t need to ask permission from a travel buddy or a girlfriend or a brother or sister. You can go anywhere you want!

    So ignore everyone else, including me. In fact, forget you even read this article at all. Go without fears or expectations, and enjoy your adventure for what it is.

    25. Make it unforgettable

    You may never be here again. Do whatever you want, as much as you want, and as long as you want. Travel is freedom. If you want to stay in Costa Rica your entire trip, do it. If you just want to lie on the beach and do nothing, do it. The world has too many rules and 99% of them are stupid. Travel is an escape. Be whoever you want. Go wherever you’ll go. Create your own adventure. In the end all that’s left are memories, so make sure they’re awesome ones.

    Just be safe, and have fun. The world is your playground!

    25 tips for your first experience as a lone traveller
  • How To Make Friends While Travelling Solo

    How To Make Friends While Travelling Solo

    It’s one of the big fears of every solo traveller – how will I meet people?

    Don’t worry. I also have this fear every single time I travel.

    Will it ever go away?

    Probably not.

    But I never let it stop me from getting on the plane. After all, that’s part of the beauty of travel – you never really know what’s going to happen. Maybe you’ll make a new best friend. Maybe you’ll meet absolutely nobody. Maybe you’ll fall in love. You never know until you go…

    Of course, there’s a few specific things you can do that will make meeting people a little bit easier. Here’s a list of things that I’ve learned to do over the years:

    Stay in hostel dorms

    There are many good reasons to stay in a hostel dorm, however networking with other travellers is one of the big ones. Some dorm rooms have up to 20 beds – how could you possibly not meet someone in a room that big? If you’re scared to say hi to them, just ask them a stupid question.

    “Hey, do you know if this place does laundry?”

    “Hey, do you know the wifi password?”

    “Hey, do you know if there’s a post office near here?”

    From there, it’ll just be natural to ask what their name is, where they’re from, how long they’ve been travelling, what’s good to do in the city. Before you know it, you’ll be sitting down over a beer and laughing about your hangover the next morning.

    This is probably the best way to make friends while travelling solo – the backpacker/hostel community is always fun, laid back, sociable, and willing to meet someone new!

    Couchsurfing

    While some people are not crazy about the idea of sleeping on a stranger’s couch, most cities will have a ‘Couchsurfing drinks’ which happens once a week or once a month and this is a great place to meet locals and travellers alike. I’ve surfed couches and been to several meetups all over the world – Africa, South America, Asia, and it’s always been a great experience. I’m still in touch with many of those people today.

    Best approach: Log on to Couchsurfing and find out when the weekly meetup is – then float the idea with your new hostel dorm mates and head down there together. Don’t be scared – the locals at the meetup are there for the sole reason of meeting people like you – travellers!

    Alternatively, you could just post on the wall of the city you’re in that you’re a traveller in town and you’re looking for people to hang out with. Also, do some research first and be specific! I don’t think many people will respond to you if you write “I’m in Bangkok and have no one to hang out with. Message me.” That sounds kinda boring, right?

    While in Bangkok I Googled some great street food places and posted up “I’m heading out to try Bangkok street food. Soi 38 is supposed to be one of the best places in town so I’m heading there tomorrow night to check it out! If you wanna join me just let me know.”

    I ended up heading out there with a couple of other guys and we had an absolute feast, as well as a few fun nights out in Bangkok after that.

    If you’re new to Couchsurfing, check out my beginner’s guide Couchsurfing 101: Everything You Need to Know.

    Sign up for activities and classes

    When I was in Spain, I took Spanish classes. When I was in China, I took Chinese classes. When I was in Peru, I took Spanish classes again. When I was in the Philippines, I took MMA classes. In Ecuador, salsa. In France, French. In New Zealand, surfing.

    Basically, everywhere I go I try to come away with a new skill of some sort.

    The plus side of doing things like this is that you will meet a lot of people! It’s very rare that you will be in a class by yourself – you will always have classmates, and naturally you will get along because you obviously share similar interests. Some of the best travel friends I’ve ever made were people I met during activities like this.

    Ask the locals questions, even when you don’t have any

    Just make a habit of trying to be social.

    When you’re sitting in a cafe eating breakfast, talk to the waitress. Ask her questions, what there is to do in the city, what her favourite food is. More often than not, they’ll be just as interested to talk to you as you are to them.

    When you’re on the bus, chat to the person next to you, ask where he’s going, what he does for a living. Ask him to suggest something in the city for you to do. Probably 99% of the locals I’ve met are more than willing to have a conversation and make you feel welcome in their city.

    When I was in Cusco, I remember having a quick chit chat to the security guard of my Spanish school, asking him about the nightlife and the different parts of the city. That weekend he invited me out with his friends and introduced me to a whole bunch of people. That’s just one of a million examples.

    If you make an effort to interact with as many local people as possible you’ll definitely make some local friends that will add a whole new dimension to your trip.

    Volunteering

    As foreigners, we generally only get to see one side of the city, and that’s because it’s typical for hotels and hostels to be clustered in the safer, more developed areas of town.

    I stayed mostly in the Sukhumvit area in Bangkok and the Makati area of Manila, and these places really gave me a shiny view of those cities. The very few times I did venture out, I saw a far less glamorous side of things.

    Volunteering is not only a way to give back, but also allows you to see both sides of the city; something I don’t always get to do. The bonus here is making new friends! Every time I’ve volunteered I’ve met amazing people – both foreigners and locals.

    The challenge here is finding ethical volunteering opportunities. I advise people to tread carefully when volunteering, particularly with children and orphanage volunteering. Usually projects like this are best suited for long term volunteers and short term volunteers can do more harm than good.

    Better opportunities for short-term travellers are adult-education, fundraising, conservation etc. Grassroots Volunteering is a great site that prioritises ethical volunteer projects.

    Don’t overplan

    This is something that goes far beyond the idea of making friends, but I can’t stress it enough.

    Don’t plan everything!

    For me, the ideal trip is to just have my flights sorted and everything else is open. I know what day I leave home and I know what day I arrive home. Everything in between is a mystery. Sometimes, I may book 1 or 2 days of accommodation to start with as well.

    I cannot tell you how many times I’ve seen travellers strangling themselves, in tears, screaming in frustration because they have to leave a place before they’re ready. And it’s always because they’ve already booked and paid for a tour or a hotel or a flight and can’t get a refund.

    A lot of travellers are just wanderers – they usually make plans on a whim and then just go the next day. You might be sitting around the hostel lounge and a bunch of you will see something on the internet and be like, “Hey, guys, look at this island, let’s go there tomorrow and stay for a few days.”

    Then your heart sinks. Why?

    Because you’ve already pre-booked your plane ticket to the next city tomorrow, paid for your hotel room and put a deposit on a city tour. Silly you.

    Keep your plans open, and the adventures with your new best friends will follow.

    Understand that you are not alone

    Travelling alone is scary, I know.

    But guess what?

    You’re not the only one.

    There’s a whole bunch of you! Everywhere you go you’re going to meet people travelling alone, and funnily enough, they’re just like you. They’re also looking for new friends, new experiences, new adventures. They’re also scared to talk to strangers. They’re also worried about not having any friends.

    That’s why travellers generally get along so well – because they understand each other. We’re all away from home. We all miss our friends and family. We all have no one to hang out with.

    But now we do.

    If I can do it, you can too

    I’m an introvert. Talking to strangers is not a natural thing for me. I wasn’t the popular kid in school. I’m not the life of the party. I’ve come out of my shell a little bit since I started travelling, but I generally enjoy being alone.

    If you’re like me, you’ll probably spend your first few days alone too. Maybe you’ll just lie in bed and listen to your Ipod or watch TV on your laptop like I did. But sooner or later, you’re going to think to yourself, “Am I really just going to lie here and watch cartoons, or am I going to do what a normal person would do and go and talk to someone?”

    And then, when you finally do, you’ll realise all your fears were just ridiculous. You’ll be better for it too, and that’s what personal growth is all about.

    Think about it logically. If you see another traveller eating breakfast in the hostel and you go and sit next to him, what do you think will happen?

    Do you think he’s going to look at you weird, stand up, throw his plate on the floor, slap you in the face, jump up and down, kick the table over and then scream, “What the f*ck are you doing! Why did you interrupt my breakfast! How dare you talk to me! I don’t want to talk to you! I hate you!”

    Or, do you think he’ll just smile at you and say, “Oh hi, I’m John, nice to meet you.”

    What’s more likely? What would you do? What would every other person you know do?

    Exactly.

    So just say hi. You’ll soon realise, you have nothing to worry about.

    Travelling soon?


    Travelling alone for the first time? Not sure how to meet people? This guide shows you all the different ways to make friends on the road and how easy it is - Perfect for a newbie backpacker!
  • Why Travelling Alone Will Change You Forever

    Why Travelling Alone Will Change You Forever

    “Are you going by yourself?”

    “Yes.”

    “But…how do you do that?”

    “I get on the plane. And I go. By myself.”

    *confused look*

    I’ve had this conversation about 900 times. Do I not have any friends? Am I crazy? Am I getting deported? Why am I going alone?

    It’s simple. To me, travel is a personal experience. It’s a chance to learn about yourself; who you are and what you want from life. It allows you to see how different the world is and to put your life in perspective. When you remove yourself from your life back home, you’re able to take that time to reflect and see things in your life a little differently. However, when you take a bit of home with you (i.e. a friend), that becomes a lot harder to do.

    And then, when you are alone, there are no limitations. You can go north or south, by boat or by train, you can just sit on the street for the whole day and watch the world go by. There are no rules, no one hour lunch breaks. There’s no one else to worry about and no one checking up on you. You can eat whatever you want and sleep wherever you want. For once, you can finally just ask yourself what you want to do today, and then do it. In the process, you’ll learn things about yourself that will surprise even you.


    “The man who goes alone can start today; but he who travels with another must wait until that other is ready.”
    –Henry David Thoreau


    One very common reason people have for not travelling is “I don’t have anyone to go with.”

    That’s not a reason. It doesn’t even make sense. Are airlines only selling double passes now? Is there a buy one get one free sale?

    Let’s get real. It’s an excuse, and not a very good one.

    I get you, though. I’ll be the first to admit – that first solo trip is pretty tough. You wonder what on earth you’re doing. You’re afraid you’ll have no friends and you’ll be sitting in your hotel room watching TV for two weeks. I know, because I’ve been there. Trust me.

    My first solo trip was to Málaga, Spain, four years ago. I went there to take a language course, thinking it would be cool adventure to tell my grandchildren. As soon as I got to my room I just lay on the bed for five hours, staring at the ceiling. I fell asleep. I woke up and stared some more.

    “I want to go home,” I thought.

    I was terrified to leave my room. I wondered who would be out there, what I would say to them. I wanted to eat dinner but I didn’t want to sit in a restaurant by myself. I’d look stupid. I didn’t even know if there was a restaurant nearby. Maybe I’d walk too far and I’d get lost. Maybe people would look at me funny. I couldn’t even speak Spanish! How would I order my food, or ask for directions? My stomach was growling, but I just couldn’t get myself to get up and go.

    In the end, I didn’t eat dinner that night. I stayed in my room, watched TV on my laptop and went back to sleep.

    Needless to say, things got better. But the only reason things got better was because I started making them better. And I only started making them better because I had to start making them better. If I sat in my room all day like a typical introvert, no one would’ve cared. No one would’ve even known. There was no best friend there to come knocking on my door, to hang out with all day, to talk to at lunch, to go on trips with. The only person I had to depend on was myself.

    I started being more sociable. It was uncomfortable at first, but I did it. I made an effort to talk to people and introduce myself. I got to know all my classmates. I learned to say YES to every invitation, no matter what is was for or where we were going. Slowly, I started to see a different side of me. I loved meeting new people, learning new things. I found a new enthusiasm for life. And in the midst of it, I suddenly realised how constrained and limited my life had been back home.

    By the end of five weeks, I felt completely at home in Málaga. I remember sitting in the taxi on the way to the airport, trying to talk to my driver who couldn’t speak a word of English. In my broken Spanish, we talked about his wife and kids, his hobbies, what it was like to grow up on the coast. I was amazed that we actually understood each other.

    I stared out the window and thought about all the things I’d learned, how different I felt and how much I’d changed in such a short time. Just five weeks earlier I had been a frightened idiot too scared to leave my room to eat. Now I was chatting in a new language with a complete stranger and had made a whole new network of friends from all around the world. When it came time to board the plane, I was crushed to leave, but I was so thankful for the inspiration. Just one short trip led to so many positive changes in my life, ultimately leading me to the journey that I’m on today.


    “We cannot expect to grow if we are too afraid or unwilling to change and face challenges. When we exit our everyday, mundane lifestyles to do something different we can experience growth, undiscovered strength, and new abilities within ourselves.”
    -Ashley Ormon


    People will ask, do you really need to go alone? Can’t you take someone with you? Won’t it be just as awesome?

    Well, yes. I’ve travelled with friends and it was a lot of fun. But when you have someone with you, it’s just not the same. You have to agree on where to eat, where to sleep. You need to discuss what sights to see, how long you’ll stay. In times of uncertainty or loneliness you have someone to depend on and seek comfort in. More often than not, you will learn more about your travel buddy than you will learn about yourself. There will always be compromises, and whenever you compromise you are, by definition, settling for something less than what you truly want.

    For that reason, I always encourage people to travel alone at least once in their life. An adventure with no limitations, no excuses and no compromises. It might be the scariest thing you’ve ever done, but if you do it, I can promise you three things:

    1. It’ll be one trip you’ll never forget.
    2. You’ll return home a completely different person than you were before, and people will notice it.
    3. You’ll want to do it again.

    Why do you go away? So that you can come back. So that you can see the place you came from with new eyes and extra colors. And the people there see you differently, too. Coming back to where you started is not the same as never leaving.”
    -Terry Pratchett


    Travelling alone has probably been the most rewarding thing I’ve ever done.

    I feel like a completely different person than I was 4 years ago.

    I believe in myself now.

    I can depend on myself.

    I’m not afraid to chase my dreams and try and build the life I want.

    If something seems hard or awkward, I’ll do it anyway.

    Failure excites me.

    I want to learn and grow.

    I see everything differently than I used to, and I don’t need alcohol or television or video games to have fun.

    When I need to, I am able to simply sit in silence and just enjoy the company of myself. The world has become a completely different place.


    Have you travelled alone before? Did you love it? Hate it? What’s your experience? Let me know in the comments below!

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