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  • Solo Female Travel: Talking Life On The Road With Lauren Juliff

    Solo Female Travel: Talking Life On The Road With Lauren Juliff

    This month in the SFT series I’ve got one of my favourite interviews to date – an awesome story of taking control of your life through travel and rolling with the punches when the road decides to make life interesting.

    On the move since 2011, our interviewee has got a heap of travel wisdom to share and a growing collection of funny stories that will surely give you a laugh or two. Now a full time digital nomad and soon-to-be published author, she’s definitely someone to get familiar with if you’re interested in a life on the road.

    Say hi to Lauren Juliff from Never Ending Footsteps!

    Lauren Juliff Never Ending Footsteps

    Introduce yourself! Who are you?

    I’m Lauren Juliff, and I’m a professional travel blogger, freelance writer, author, and full-time traveller.

    Tell us a bit about how you started a life of travel. What was your inspiration, how did you make it happen, and what were the hard things you had to leave behind? 

    I’ve always wanted to travel, but never believed it was a possibility. When I was a child, I’d head off on a family holiday to the British coast, where it would rain all week and all we did was argue. When it came to leave, though, I spent all day sobbing because I didn’t want to go home. This pattern continued until I finally decided to travel long-term.

    I spent five years saving as much money as I could, picking up part-time jobs that I could fit around my studying. I sold close to everything I owned in preparation. I moved back in with my parents to save money. I stopped buying thiings I didn’t need. I made travel my priority, I guess, and every decision I made was weighed up against that.

    The only hard thing to leave beind was my family. We’re incredibly close and saying goodbye to them was one of the hardest things I’ve had to do. That’s pretty much it! Quitting my job was a piece of cake because I didn’t care about it, I didn’t have any possessions aside from what could fit in my backpack, and my friends had been unsupportive when I told them of my dreams to travel, so I wasn’t sad about leaving them.

    On your blog you put together monthly summaries of your travels, and you often manage to visit several countries while spending under $1,000 per month. What’s your secret? 

    Visiting cheap countries – I spend a lot more time in Southeast Asia and Eastern Europe over Australia and Western Europe. I eat street food where I can, as these meals rarely cost more than $1. I take buses and trains instead of flights. I stay in hostels and guesthouses over hotels.

    Also, moving slowly helps! For example, when travelling across Thailand, you’re paying out for touristy activities, you’re paying for transport, you’re paying higher prices for accommodation because you’re staying for a short amount of time, food gets expensive because you haven’t had a chance to find the cheapest options. When I hole myself up in Chiang Mai for a few months at a time, I end up spending around half as much as I would when travelling. Accommodation can be incredibly cheap if you’re staying for months at a time in Thailand – I pay around $200 a month for a large room, with gym and pool access, and a weekly cleaner. If I was travelling from guesthouse to guesthouse, I’d likely end up paying $400 for the month, and it would be in basic rooms with just a shower and a bed.

    Airbnb is great for long-term stays as well. When I’m staying somewhere for a month, I can usually get a 50% discount on the nightly rate.

     

    A delicious breakfast of Shan noodle soup for less than $1!

    A photo posted by Lauren Juliff (@nefootsteps) on

    You’ve got a few stories of getting into sticky situations on the road, but you’re still alive with all your limbs, obviously. With safety being such a huge issue in travel, what advice can you share for staying safe on the road as a female? 

    While I’ve had lots of mishaps on the road, I’ve never felt like I’ve been in any kind of real danger while travelling. Make sure to behave how you would at home, stay cautious when drinking, keep your stuff locked up when you go outside, stay away from any dodgy neighbourhoods, and don’t wander around alone at night.

    What are some places you’ve had to deal with unwanted advances or harassment from men and how do you handle it?

    Morocco was the worst I can think of. I love the country but I was harrassed on a daily basis. It wasn’t just vocal, but I had guys grabbing at me, and hissing when I passed. I even had a guy throw a rock at my head at one point! If I feel uncomfortable with male attention, I leave. I walk back to my guesthouse and refuse to interact with them. That’s it, really. I don’t talk, no eye contact, and I leave.

    Have there ever been times when you’ve visited male dominated societies and had to be sensitive to “special” rules for women, such as wearing certain clothes or behaving in a certain way? How did you handle it?

    The Maldives was probably the most extreme example of this – it’s an extremely strict Muslim country. I didn’t have a problem with it, though, and I’ve never had an issue with it. I just accept that that’s a part of travelling through a country, and respect their culture. In the Maldives, I wore jeans and a long-sleeved top at all times, and I sunbathed and swam in the ocean in a t-shirt and board shorts. No alcohol, no eating pork, keep covered up. It was fine.

     

    Tough day at the office

    A photo posted by Lauren Juliff (@nefootsteps) on

    Many first time solo travellers are worried about being alone and the difficulty in making friends on the road. What’s your experience and what advice can you give?

    I used to be pretty shy and socially anxious before I travelled, and this was a very real concern of mine.

    Fortunately, I’ve found it to be incredibly easy to make friends on the road, which is shocking considering how lacking my social skills were at the time! The easiest thing to do is stay in a dorm. It’s impossible not to make friends in one– everyone’s there because they’re looking to meet people, and you already have something in common to talk about: travel!

    Share one of the philosophies you live your life by. When, how, and why did it become part of your life?

    To leave my comfort zone as much as possible. Before travel, I lived a very sheltered life: I’d never eaten Chinese/Thai/Indian food, and I had never even been on a bus. Everything terrified me because I had no life experience.

    Travel took me right out of my pea-sized comfort zone on an hourly basis, and it has been so incredibly transformative for me. I feel like I’m actually able to function in the world without panicking that I’m going to die.

    Now, I try to challenge myself as much as possible because I know it’ll help me be a better person. In fact, this year, I’m on a mission to try 52 new things in 52 weeks.

    People always think travel is glamorous and full of smiles all the time, but as you know that is far from the truth. Tell me the one (or two or three) things you hate most about the traveller’s life (or miss about a traditional life).

    Fortunately, a traveller’s life is full of freedom, so if there was something I hated or missed, I’d stop doing it or go do it. I’d say that my least favourite part of travel is missing my family, but when I miss them, I book a plane ticket home and go see them. So, there isn’t really anything I hate about it. If there was, I’d stop doing it.

    One of the first posts of yours I read was a really inspirational piece about your battle with anxiety and how travel helped you regain control of your life (here and here). Could you share some thoughts on why you think travel brought such a positive change to your life? Would you advise others to follow the same path?

    It took a long time for me to realise this, my anxiety stemmed from a lack of control. Once I started to have panic attacks, I felt like I had lost control of my life, and I started doing silly things to try and control it: I unintentially developed an eating disorder, for example, and I stopped going outside.

    Travel gives me full control over my life. I can go wherever I want whenever I want, do whatever I want (within reason!), and with whoever I want. It’s liberating and it calms my anxiety so much. I used to have maybe 5-10 panic attacks a day at the height of my anxiety, but it’s rare I’ll have one even once a year these days.

    I wouldn’t necessarily advise that others just throw everything in to travel because they’re dealing with anxiety. When I was at my lowest point, I couldn’t even bring myself to leave the house or eat more than an apple a day, so leaving to travel would have been the worst thing for me to do. I think if you have mild anxiety (attacks maybe once a week/month) it’s a more realistic option.

     

    A final glimpse of Chiang Mai from the songthaew on the way to the airport. Next stop, Sri Lanka!

    A photo posted by Lauren Juliff (@nefootsteps) on

    Let’s talk about your upcoming book. Tell us a little bit about what’s inside, your inspiration for writing a memoir, and when we can expect it!

    My book is a travel memoir titled How Not to Travel the World. I’m one of the unluckiest travellers in the world – I’ve been assaulted, robbed, and scammed, been caught up with a tsunami, had a boat start to sink with me on board, accidentally ate a cockroach, the list goes on… How Not to Travel the World is about how I managed to conquer debilitating anxiety through having these terrible things happen to me. It’s about following your dreams, no matter how many curveballs life throws at you. It’s about learning to get out of your comfort zone, finding the humour in messed up situations, and falling in love with life on the road. I decided to write it because I wanted to show that travel isn’t all rainbows and sunsets and meaningful experiences. I wanted to show that it can be transformative, and I wanted to share some of the stories I haven’t written about on Never Ending Footsteps. It’s due out in July!

    People will look at you and see that today you travel the world full time, work for yourself, and have a book deal to your name. Give some practical advice to the girls out there might aspire to quitting their jobs and following in your footsteps.

    Find a way to stand out from the crowd. There’s so many travel blogs out there that you’ll never stand out unless you do something different. Be honest, inject personality into your writing, and don’t be a sell out. If you want to work as you travel, start your business at least a year before you leave the country – some of the most time-consuming aspects are right at the start, and you don’t want to spend eighteen hours a day on your laptop when you want to be out exploring. In terms of travel, don’t plan. Have a rough idea of where you want to go, book a one-way ticket, don’t freak out, and just leave. It’s really that simple.

     

    Exploring the temples of Bagan. What an incredible place!

    A photo posted by Lauren Juliff (@nefootsteps) on

    Ok, some fun questions. Describe yourself in 3 words.

    Honest, disaster-prone, determined.

    Who’s your celebrity crush?

    Keith Richards.

    Which country, in your opinion, has the most handsome men?

    New Zealand, because the men are rugged and outdoorsy, and have funny accents.

    Imagine a Hollywood movie wants to make a movie of your life. Who plays you and why?

    Jennifer Lawrence, because she’s also a walking disaster.

    When’s the last time you cried?

    Last week, when I emailed my editor the final draft of my manuscript. So many emotions!

    Imagine travel has become illegal and you now have to choose one city to live in for the rest of your life. Where do you choose?

    Ljubljana, Slovenia.

    What’s one of the less popular posts on your blog that you’d like more people to read?

    And Then the Brakes Failed – one of my favourite incident posts but it never seemed to gain much traction.

    If you could invite any 3 people from history to dinner, who would it be?

    Richard Feynman, Syd Barrett, Winston Churchill

    The world is about to end in 30 minutes and you have time for one final meal from anywhere in the world. What is it?

    Honey and cumin glazed yams from Tasy N Sons in Portland, OR.

    Ok, let’s get serious again. Are you a nomad for life? Why? Why not?

    I don’t know what the future holds, but for the moment, I have no plans to stop travelling. I recently tried an experiment where I moved to Spain for four months to see if I was ready to settle. I’m two months into the stay and I spend most of my time planning trips for when my time is up.

    I’d imagine my travels might evolve until I have a base I can return to for a few months each year, but for now, travel makes me happy.

    And lastly, for the girls (and guys) out there still on the fence about their first solo trip, what advice can you give them?

    Travel is the best thing I’ve ever done, and I’ve never met anyone who’s regretted it. If you’re wondering whether to take the plunge, try it. If you hate it, you’re only a plane ticket away from home, and then you won’t have to spend the rest of your life wondering what might have been.

    Got questions for Lauren? Leave them in the comments below! You can also check out more of her story on her blog at Never Ending Footsteps and connect with her on Facebook and Twitter.

    Missed the rest of the series? Check out the previous interviews here.

  • Solo Female Travel: Musing On Travel with Kristin Addis

    Solo Female Travel: Musing On Travel with Kristin Addis

    We’re back!

    This month in the SFT series I’ll be chatting with a traveller who’s certainly covered her fair share of the globe (definitely more than me!). On the road solo since 2012, she’s no stranger to travelling alone and hopefully she’ll have a few stories and advice that you guys will find handy. Interestingly, she had a few answers that were quite different to previous interviewees, so read on to get her take on nomad’ing solo as a female.

    Psst – she also writes a great blog – one I always enjoy checking in on from time to time. Do check it out!

    Anyway, let’s get to that interview; say hello to Kristin from Be My Travel Muse.

     

    A photo posted by Kristin Addis (@bemytravelmuse) on

    Introduce yourself! Who are you?

    A girl from Southern California who likes to pretend she’s deep and complex by writing about traveling. I’ve been on the road solo since September of 2012.

    Tell us a bit about how you started a life of travel. What was your inspiration, how did you make it happen, and what were the hard things you had to leave behind?

    My inspiration was other travel bloggers who showed me, through their writing and stories, that a lifestyle like this is actually possible without being a trust fund baby. I saved up a chunk of cash, sold everything I had, and took off on a one-way ticket, effectively demolishing any bridges behind me. The things I left behind are still difficult to do without – my best friends and family, all of whom mean the world to me.

    What’s the response been like to you going nomadic and breaking the ‘traditional’ mold of job, marriage and kids?

    I still have a job. I don’t think traveling means you can’t have a marriage and kids. That’s a big misconception and a lot of people I meet are out there doing it, such as the family volunteering with me on a farm I’m staying on right now in South Africa. There is no ‘normal’ anymore and these days, thinking outside the box is much easier to execute with all of the opportunity online and for native English speakers who want to teach abroad.

    One of the biggest concerns about solo female travel is safety. What’s your experience with this, and what advice can you share for staying safe on the road as a female?

    I don’t think traveling alone as a female is THAT different than a male traveling alone. We do have different concerns but so much boils down to common sense and intution. I view it this way: You’ve stayed alive this long, keep doing what you’re doing on the road as well.

    Share one of the philosophies you live your life by. When, how, and why did it become part of your life?

    Compassion heals and helps us understand. It cultivates patience and removes the “us vs. them” mentality. It improves the mood and when you feel connections to people rather than differences, life becomes easier.

    Tell me the one book you’ve read that has inspired the biggest positive change in your life.

    It’s called What Makes You Not a Buddhist. The title is a bit misleading because it sounds like it’ll be a religious book but it’s largely not. It’s more about the four truths of Buddhism and how they can help us deal with loss, change, and other difficulties. It changed my entire perspective and it’s the book I always recommend to friends.

    People always think travel is glamorous and full of smiles all the time, but as you know that is far from the truth. Tell me the one (or two or three) things you hate most about the traveller’s life.

    The lack of stability, friends, and the comfort of understanding a place.

     

    #SCUBA diving in #Belize. Take me back A photo posted by Kristin Addis (@bemytravelmuse) on

    We always say that travel changes people. Looking back now, what is the one thing you don’t like about your old self that you managed to change through travel?

    I don’t think it changes people. I think it allows them to be who they’ve always been without the judgement and influence of people back home. Family and friends do, inevitably, have a lot of influence over how we act and behave, but without anyone who knows you from before on the road, you can be whoever you want to be in that moment.

    Where are some places you’ve had to deal with unwanted advances or harassment from men and how do you handle it?

    I got groped in the dark in Nepal by a man who foricibly grabbed me then ran away in the span of a few seconds. It left me feeling shocked and vulnerable, but I stayed for a month regardless and still think highly of the country. There are bad eggs everywhere and I’ll be more careful about walking alone at night moving forward.

    How do you afford your travels?

    I support myself from brand partnerships and advertising on my blog, freelance writing, and some freelance social media work. It took a while to get here, but now it’s a solid living and I couldn’t be happier.

    Right now you’re wandering through Africa, a continent that many would perceive as dangerous for a solo female traveller. Give us your opinion after spending some time on the ground there.

    I’ve gone to townships where some locals here won’t go, and been treated with so much kindness that it’s overwhelming. Africa is huge, there are a lot of dangerous places but that’s also true of the US.

    Are you a nomad for life? Why? Why not?

    A lot of people ask me that and it’s impossible to answer. I don’t even know what I’m doing tomorrow! Most likely traveling will always be a part of my life but at some point a home base would be nice.

    And lastly, for the girls out there still on the fence about their first solo trip, what advice can you give them? 

    This is for the girls and the guys: do it because you will meet people, you won’t be alone that much, and it will be worth it. It’s scary right now and that’s okay because it is for everyone, but most things worth doing are.

    Kristin is a former investment banker from California, who left her job to travel the world in 2012. To read more about her story, check out her blog at Be My Travel Muse, or connect with her through her social media channels on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram

    Enjoyed this interview? Check out the rest of the series here!

  • Solo Female Travel: Living La Pura Vida with Camille Willemain

    Solo Female Travel: Living La Pura Vida with Camille Willemain

    Yes, we are back!

    This series was a huge success last year and so I’m excited to let you know I’ll be running it one more time. Seven more female nomads, seven more interviews. I’ve got some amazing interviewees lined up for you this time and I’m sure you guys are going to love it (missed last year’s series? Check it out here).

    Today’s interviewee was one of my favourites to date. I admire her for her advocacy for pure and simple living, and the idea of living out your life without listening to all the outside noise and judgement. As many of you know, that’s a lesson I’ve tried to emphasise here in the past as well.

    After 3 years out on the road she also has a few lessons in travel to share, but, I’ll let you read those and the rest of what she has to say for yourselves.

    Say hi to Camille from This American Girl!

    Introduce yourself! Who are you?

    Ha, “who am I”, I ask myself that question every day. The answer is ever evolving. The easy answer is, my name is Camille, I’ve been living nomadically traveling the world for 3 years, I’m a full time travel blogger at This American Girl, a certified yoga teacher, a reiki practitioner, a beach bum, and apparently these days I’m also a snow bunny.

    Tell us a bit about how you started a life of travel. What was your inspiration, how did you make it happen, and what were the hard things you had to leave behind?

    I was kinda thrown into the world of travel. I didn’t exactly plan it, but I believe the best things happen that way. I was laid off from two different jobs back to back (I worked as a project manager in Internet Marketing), and kept going in and out of a relationship that had long met its expiration date. Getting laid off showed me that something clearly was not working and I needed a new direction. I decided to pursue my passion at the time, Interior Design, so my plan was to go back to school and get my Master’s. My friend, blogger from canyoustayfordinner.com, had just gotten a book deal with Random house to write her memoir, and told me she was going to Costa Rica to write the book for a few months. We ended up going together, and the rest is history. I got a taste of the travel life, and despite my mental struggle the first year, I knew there was no going back for me. At this point, my lifestyle isn’t even a choice. It’s a calling.

    What’s the response been like to you going nomadic and breaking the ‘traditional’ mold of job, marriage and kids?

    I’ve been called anything from ballsy, badass, and inspirational to selfish, spoiled, and entitled. I practice detaching myself from external judgement, be it negative or positive. It’s not easy, but if you put yourself in the spotlight, it’s essential. I feel strongly that this is the right path for me at this point in my life, and that keeps me going. My family is super supportive and proud, which makes life so much easier. When people tell me that I’ve inspired them to follow their dreams, it’s a really thick icing on the cake.

    One of the biggest concerns about solo female travel is safety. What’s your experience with this, and what advice can you share for staying safe on the road as a female?

    I think the most dangerous place in the world is the USA, haha. But seriously, everywhere has a potential for “danger” and it all depends on where you go and the energy you put out there. Most of the time I feel safe. I have lots of safety tips for women in this post.

    Share one of your life philosophies. When, how, and why did you come to believe in it?

    The difference between happiness and unhappiness is simple: gratitude. See how wonderful everything you DO have is, and you’ll be instantly happy. So often we fixate on what we wish we had, how things could be better, what’s wrong with our situation. That causes us suffering. A simple change in perspective allows us to be instantly happy. Seeing happy, generous, loving people living in poverty in Cambodia, Laos, and Nicaragua, and witnessing the effects of gratitude in my own life has instilled this belief in me.

    Bren: 100% truth right there!

     

    Bathing in the holy water at #tirtaempul #bali #indonesia #nomadlife #travel #wanderlust A photo posted by This American Girl (@thisamericangirl) on

    Tell me the one book you’ve read that has inspired you and/or your travels more than any other.

    Honestly my fave travel book has got to be The Beach, I love the writing style and he so perfectly depicts the Southeast Asia backpacking culture. However, I wouldn’t say it’s inspired my travels. The book that has inspired me most in life is Ishmael by Daniel Quinn. A disillusioned intellectual meets a gorilla in a warehouse who teaches him about the story (and destructive myth) of human culture through mental telepathy. Sounds out there, but it’s the realest thing I’ve ever read. It proposes a brilliant solution for healing the destruction we’ve caused ourselves and the earth: live and let live. It’s basically my bible and I recommend it to everyone I meet.

    How do you address your fears about certain locations or countries? Do you avoid certain places based on being a woman and how do you deal with blatant sexism on the road?

    I’ve never avoided anywhere as a woman, but cat calling and sexism is a real problem especially in Latin America. I’ve tried ignoring, responding with anger, responding with sass, responding with sarcasm, and honestly none of it seems to stop them. So, my advice is to hold your head up high, not feel any shame for someone elses’ behavior, and respond in whatever way makes you feel most empowered.

    People always think travel is glamorous and full of smiles all the time, but that is far from the truth. Tell me the one (or two or three) things you hate most about the traveller’s life (or miss about a traditional life).

    Haha, ok, honestly I love it all in its own way. You’ve GOT to have a sense of humor or you’ll go crazy that’s for sure. The worst by far is food poisoning. It depletes my energy, breaks my spirit, and leaves me crying for my mom. This is why I travel with my own water kefir, and I never get food poisoning anymore. More about that here!

     

    Crazy #saigon at night #vietnam #adventure #travel #nomadlife #backpacking #southeastasia

    A photo posted by This American Girl (@thisamericangirl) on

    We always say that travel changes people. Looking back now, what is the one thing you don’t like about your old self that you managed to change through travel?

    For a long time I rejected who I was before travel. I saw myself as an improved version of my former self. Though my yoga practice is all about accepting the interconnectedness of everything, and embracing myself at every stage of life. I’ve grown tremendously through travel, and I suppose the thing I’m most proud of is the way that I’ve learned to take responsibility for my own happiness. I, and only I, decide that. It doesn’t depend on how nice my boyfriend is, or how available my friends are, or how good my job is. It’s my own choice. A very empowering discovery indeed! 🙂

    You seem to have a love affair going on with Costa Rica, and recently wrote a book about the country! Tell us a bit about that and what it is about the country you love so much.

    Costa Rica is the best place in the world to simply be. It has such unbelievable nature, a really easy lifestyle, and it’s so active and healthy. You’ll have to read my book, which has an entire chapter entitled “What Makes Costa Rica So Special” to find out more 😉 You can read more about my book here.

     

      Ooommmmmm #pavonesyogacenter #meditation #yoga #yogateachertraining #pavones #costarica   A photo posted by This American Girl (@thisamericangirl) on

    Ok, some fun questions. Who’s your celebrity crush? 

    I’m sooooo out of the loop with who celebrities even are these days that it’s tough to answer that. Do bloggers count? hahaha

    And which country, in your opinion, has the most handsome men?

    Portugal. Easy.

    If you could choose one musician to serenade you for an hour, who would it be?

    Matt Corby. Ok, maybe he’s my crush.

    Imagine a Hollywood studio wants to make a movie of your life. Who plays you and why?

    I play myself, because I’m an original 😉 And I’m actually a trained theater actress since age 5. True story.

    When’s the last time you cried?

    The other day on the bus. The moment I put my headphones in and look out the window, the waterworks come, haha. I love it. It feels really good. They’re usually tears of gratitude and happiness for my life.

    You’re allowed to ask the universe one question and it will be answered 100% honestly. What would it be? (Bren: I’d ask who killed 2pac).

    I ask the universe questions all of the time, and when I turn off my mind for long enough, sometimes I even get the answers 🙂
    But I still don’t know who killed Tupac… assuming he’s actually dead….

    Complete this sentence: If I was granted three wishes today, I would have lunch with ________, I would spend the day in ___________, and I would go to bed at night with ____________ (just to cuddle, of course).

    I would have lunch with my best friend from college who I last saw a year ago in Bali, I would spend the day in the El Nido Palawan, and the last one I’m keeping as my secret 🙂

    Ok, let’s get serious again. Are you a nomad for life? Why? Why not?

    I never say never, so who knows, maybe one day I’ll settle down. But I do know that I’m a lifelong explorer. Travel has been my outlet for discovering myself, and I don’t see that ever changing. At this point I envision myself having a home in Costa Rica that I can always come back to, leading travel/yoga retreats all over the world, and continuing to travel to and blog about my adventures all over the world.

    And lastly, for those still on the fence about their first solo trip, what advice can you give them?

    Ask yourself this question: What would you do if fear did not exist? What would you do if you could not fail? What would you do if you knew that the universe was always there to support you?

    Then go and do that. Whenever you get scared, ask yourself those questions again, and remember that when you trust, you have nothing to fear.

     

    I’m going to miss this place #anbang #hoian #vietnam #beachlife #beachbum #nomadlife #wanderlust

    A photo posted by This American Girl (@thisamericangirl) on


    Want to read more about Camille’s story? Be sure to head over to her blog at This American Girl and connect with her through her social media channels on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. Also, if you have any more questions for her, leave them in the comments section below!

    Enjoyed this interview? Check out the previous interviews in the series here.

  • Solo Female Travel: Chasing Dreams With Trisha Velarmino

    Solo Female Travel: Chasing Dreams With Trisha Velarmino

    Today’s Solo Female Travel interviewee is one hardcore backpacker. From the volunteering for free beds, to the 30 hour bus journeys, to the exploring small cities in faraway places, she’s really done it all. I thought I was quite the seasoned backpacker, but evidently I’ve still got a few unchecked things on my list.

    She’s also from The Philippines, which is perfect, because I get a lot of queries about travelling for Filipinos and how they can navigate visa issues etc. So, to my Filipino readers, hopefully I’ll be introducing you to someone who can help you get those questions answered.

    Who is she?

    Say hi to the always-smiling Trisha Velarmino from P.S. I’m On My Way

    Trisha Velarmino, solo female travel tips

    Introduce yourself! Who are you?

    I am Trisha Velarmino, born and raised in Subic Bay, Philippines. Last year, I I ditched my job to travel the world but before that, I was working with the high maintenance world of fashion in Manila and Milan. I played football growing up and loved surfing and skateboards. I worked for the United Nations before and I want to do it again as a long-term endeavour. I love food and one day, I dream to work for Anthony Bourdain or be Gordon Ramsay’s apprentice for life.

    What was the first trip you took abroad by yourself? What was your inspiration?

    The first trip I took alone was in Europe, when I went to fashion school. I was barely 21 and knew nothing about travelling. Yeah, I guess fashion was the inspiration first. I was actually maintaining a fashion blog back then but when I had the chance to travel to different cities in Europe, my interests changed. I was even more excited to go to a different city every week than to wake up for school. I then shifted my fashion blog into travel. From then on, I told myself, “One day I will travel the world”.

    What’s the response been like to you going nomadic and breaking the ‘traditional’ mold of job, marriage and kids?

    So far, nothing. Yeah, with the job, there’s a lot of things. People raising their eyebrows saying, “You worked in fashion and now you’re doing some low-earning internet job?”, things like that. For some people, it’s all about having a huge house, an expensive car and a perfect career. I used to be one of them but now, I’d rather own nothing. You know how it is in the Philippines. At my age, I should have a family and raising children at home but I’ve met a lot of travellers older than me who are still pursuing their dreams. Good thing I am surrounded by a very supportive community and these norms are not applicable in our lives. They’re with me all the way! And those who are not, I made it unofficial on Facebook (aka unfriend). HAHAHAHA!

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    Typical Trisha pose in Zambales, Philippines

    What tips do you have for packing light as a female?

    I used to be very bad at this because I worked in fashion. I think I still am. I have a 90 liter backpack for a year now and believe me, it’s always full. As long as I can fit something, I will try to occupy that space. I didn’t have problems carrying it around though because I only move every 2 or 3 months. I don’t think this is a problem when you’re travelling long-term. I really don’t believe when people say “pack light.” Sure, maybe if you’re on a 2-week holiday, you can do that. Everyone I met on the road, men or women, travelling for 6-mos to 1-year has at least a 75 liter backpack and it’s full. Where I am right now, each country’s weather changes so I really have to have everything. My sole tip for the ladies: don’t bring a suitcase. Get a backpack. No matter how heavy it is, it will always come handy.

    What is the biggest thing you have learned about yourself while travelling solo?

    I learned that I can be my own best friend. I became very close to my inner self and have eradicated all the negative habits that I used to have, spiritually. There are a lot of things, actually but for me, self-care and knowing yourself better was the best thing that ever happened to me. And I am not just saying it, I can feel it everyday.

    I see you’re a keen student of several languages. How important do you think it is to learn the local language while travelling, and which methods of learning do you find most effective?

    That explains my lack of English humor in this article. HAHAHA! I’ve been speaking Spanish and Portuguese for over a year now (everyday) and it’s true, you lose the grammar sometimes. I didn’t go to any language school but then I found myself fluent in different languages. First, I think you should have the heart for it. For most places I’ve been too, I stay a long time which gives me a better chance to blend in and speak the language. I like languages. No, I love it. And you have to want to learn it. I have a friend who’s been in South America for almost a year but can’t speak anything, because he doesn’t try. How are you supposed to learn if you don’t even try? My most effective method is just speaking it, even if you’re right or wrong. Along the way, people will correct you and you’ll get by, I swear.

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    At the World Cup in Rio, Brazil

    Many people are reluctant to travel solo because they feel like they’ll be alone and won’t meet anyone. What’s your experience?

    You will feel alone for sure but clearly, that’s not an issue. When I volunteered in a bar in Peru, I didn’t expect it to be as amazing. The people I worked with are now my long-time friends. We even travelled to Bolivia together. But then again, we are all different people. Some prefer to be alone and others are not as talkative as I am, I guess. I can make friends with people without forcing it. You know, it just naturally comes. Come to a place with no expectations and just let it flow. Stop thinking about the future. Train yourself on how to enjoy the present.

    The biggest concern with solo female travel is safety. How do you get over that fear? What steps do you take to make sure you stay safe while on the road?

    Since becoming connected to my inner self I’ve never attracted harm or danger. I don’t know. I think safety is Universal and what happens to us is a product of what we do. To be honest, I don’t take any safety precautions. I just live, have a good feeling and enjoy the ride. I don’t want to tell your readers a particular way of being “safe” because we are all different. Different things happen to us, and that’s what makes us humans. However, I want to say never let your guard down but don’t be too paranoid. Breathe. Attract the positive force. All you have to do is have a relationship with the Universe.

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    Camel riding in the Sahara

    You’re from The Philippines, which is a notoriously difficult passport to travel with. How do you overcome this problem and what advice can you give to others for dealing with the travel and visa issues that stem from this?

    Travel in visa-free countries. That’s the thing, Filipinos always think about going to Europe or USA and that’s their dream, I respect that. However, we Filipinos always get rejected by these man-made rules that forbid us to reach our goals. For over a year in South America, I didn’t need a single visa to any of the countries I’ve been to (except for Argentina and Chile). I think let’s just not push it. If it’s for you, it will come. Most of my friends say, “You just say that because you already went to Europe.” Well yeah, maybe. But when I went to Europe, I didn’t push it. It just happened. “When you really want something, all the Universe will conspire to help you achieve it.” Again, maybe this visa thing is a Universal experience.

    (Note from Bren: The universe relationship is a reference to the book “The Alchemist”; read it!).

    How do you afford your travels, and what tips can you share for keeping costs down while on the road?

    I maintain a travel blog which earns me enough money to travel and also, I have an online job. I am doing audience expansion for companies (aka social media management) which lets me work anywhere in the world. No office or time requirement. I also volunteer in exchange for free bed and food which keeps the cost low. Basically, what I am earning now is only when I want to move or buy something for myself or splurge on a night out. I just realized I don’t really pay for anything because of volunteering! You can read more about that on the the volunteering and working remote sections of my blog.

    What is one place you have been that was completely different to what you expected it would be?

    Bolivia. I was looking forward to a 20-years ago setting (yes the place looked like it was from the 80s) but the wildest parties happened there when I was really expecting that from Europe or some countries in South America or Asia.

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    Lake Titicaca in Copacabana, Bolivia

    OK, a couple of fun questions – who’s your celebrity crush?

    I honestly don’t have one but I fancy football players: Andre Schuller (Germany), Ezequiel Lavezzi (Argentina) and Iker Casillas (Spain). Oh, I love the sexy Adam Levine too!

    And, which country have you been to that, in your opinion, has the most handsome men? 

    Oh my God, I feel like you’re my friends back home! They ask me the same questions! I am not sure. In Europe, everyone has a fair share of beautiful men but generally speaking, I’d go for the French. In South America, I’d say Peru and Argentina. Oh, and Brasil too! I really don’t know. I met a handful when I was travelling and they’re all different in their ways. I just don’t look at men physically; we need to have a good vibe as well.

    Imagine a Hollywood studio wanted to make a movie of your life. Who would play you and why?

    Rachel Bilson. Or locally, I’d choose Lauren Young.

    Are you a nomad for life? Why? Why not?

    I can live this life forever! People think I come from a very rich family and that my parents are funding my travel but I guess, that’s how everyone looks at it when you’re travelling immensely. I am just living my life without regrets and thinking of the future. I don’t even miss the comfort of having my own bed! I feel spiritually rich at the moment and I’ve collected memories all over the world – ones I can share with my grandchildren while rocking on a chair and sewing mittens for them. It’s something that is addictive and when you get by, you’ll never want to stop. I was scared when I started, too scared. However, after a year, I don’t feel strange anymore. I can be anywhere and just fit. My life changed a lot in a course of a year. There were some hardships, yes, but life doesn’t come easy. I found a path where realizing my ultimate dream is possible and I wouldn’t trade that or let the opportunity slip. I don’t know what will happen tomorrow but still, I go forward because I have faith. I believe this life is for me.

    Lastly, for those planning or considering their very first trip alone, what advice do you have for them? And where would you recommend they go?

    Anywhere you want! If you have a good feeling about a place, it will all work out. I cannot dictate where you want to go but I can give a piece of advice for your headstart: volunteer. It will change your life. You will be a person of compassion. You will learn how to fend for yourself and live simply. These are the things you need before going on your own. Today, I look at volunteers as superheroes and being a part of this league is one of the best things that ever happened to my life.

    To read more about Trisha’s adventures, head over to her blog psimonmyway.com. You can also connect with her on Facebook and Twitter.

  • Solo Female Travel: Getting A Glimpse Of Wanderland With Alexandra Baackes

    Solo Female Travel: Getting A Glimpse Of Wanderland With Alexandra Baackes

    OK you girl wanderers, we’re back!

    Today I’m excited to introduce you all to Alexandra Baackes from Alex in Wanderland. Alex is probably one of the most active bloggers I know, publishing new posts almost daily even while she’s travelling! I try to post once a week and even then I seem to struggle, so I really have no idea how she does it.

    Globetrotting full time since 2009 and certainly no stranger to going solo, Alex now has a travel blog literally overflowing with useful info about all things travel. You’ll find she writes quite candidly about her adventures and personal experiences, which is always refreshing and is really what travel is all about. Hopefully, you’ll get a little glimpse of that in our interview below.

    Ready for Wanderland?

    Let’s go.

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    Introduce yourself! Who are you?

    I’m a New York native on the move, documenting every highlight and heartbreak on alexinwanderland.com. I wear many hats, but I consider myself above all a writer, designer, and globetrotter.

    What was the first trip you took abroad by yourself? What was your inspiration?

    When I was nineteen I spent a solo summer in Southeast Asia volunteering at an animal clinic, learning how to scuba dive, and falling head over heels with the backpacking life. I often tell people my inspiration was the movie The Beach and they laugh because they think I’m kidding, but I’m not – I too wanted to drink snake blood in the back streets of Bangkok and stumble upon a beach commune run by Tilda Swinton.

    What’s the response been like to you going nomadic and breaking the ‘traditional’ mold of job, marriage and kids?

    Thankfully I’ve never felt much pressure to do things in a way that resembles normal. I’m approaching my third anniversary of nomadic lifestyle and I definitely am starting to get a lot of questions from friends about when I’ll settle down. All I know is it won’t be anytime in 2014 – I’ve already got a fully booked travel schedule!

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    Hiking in Ecuador

    The biggest concern for travelling solo as a female is safety. How do you get over that fear? What steps do you take to make sure you stay safe while on the road?

    I simply trust that the good judgment and instincts that keep me safe at home will do the same on the road. I remind myself that the majority of people in the world are out to help me, not harm me, and I just go.

    Many people are reluctant to travel solo because they feel like they’ll be alone and won’t meet anyone. What’s your experience?

    As I am always working when I travel I find that I have to make a conscious effort to be alone when I need to be. Backpacking is the world’s easiest way to meet new people and make new friends, and every aspect of it – staying in hostels, taking mass transit, signing up for activities and tours – is designed to put you in contact with like-minded people.
    I actually love solo travel as it is so much easier to meet everyone and anyone! When you travel in a group or with a partner you’re naturally less open to the world. I’ve met some of my best friends in the world on the road. I was just bridesmaid for one of them!

    Where are some places you’ve had to deal with unwanted advances or harassment from men and how do you do it?

    I have found traveling in Southeast Asia, I experience very little unwanted attention. When I arrived in Indonesia and started getting a lot of commentary based on my long blonde hair I simply started tying it up before going out and it eliminated the problem. In South America machismo culture is alive and well and in the beginning I was taken aback by some of the harassment I received. But I reminded myself it was less of a threat and more a symptom of the culture, and I just tried to ignore it.

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    Scuba diving in Indonesia

    How do you afford your travels?

    That’s a short question with a very long answer! I make money via my blog and my freelance writing and design work and I saved like a maniac before I took off.
    In general, I need very little income to sustain my lifestyle. I travel to cheap regions of the world, I move slow, I play the frequent flyer points game, and I rarely if ever buy tangible things. I break down my monthly spending in my roundup posts, but it usually hovers around $50 a day all in.

    OK, a couple of fun questions – who’s your celebrity crush?

    Channing Tatum.

    And, which country have you been to that, in your opinion, has the most handsome men?

    I haven’t been to South Africa yet but I’ve met many of its men on my travels. And I can’t get enough of that accent.

    Imagine a Hollywood studio wanted to make a movie of your life. Who would play you and why?

    Christina Applegate. I think we have similar mannerisms and she tends to play fairly neurotic characters, so I think she’d have had plenty of practice.

    Are you a nomad for life? Why? Why not?

    Jury is still out. I am slowing down considerably and often miss the routine of the real world, but the road keeps calling me back. Also, I have no idea where I’d “settle down,” even if I wanted to. New York will always feel like home, in a way, but I don’t think I could put myself through those winters ever again.
    I think in my ideal world, I’d spent a third of the year in the US with my friends and family, a third of the year in a home away from home overseas, and a third of the year traveling.

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    Swing jumping in Panama

    Lastly, for those planning or considering their very first trip alone, what advice do you have for them? And where would you recommend they go?

    Thailand is my second home and I can’t think of a better place for a first big solo trip. It’s affordable, safe, and friendly, and the tourism infrastructure is well in place. And my advice? Build a flight change fee into your budget right off the bat – you’re never going to want to leave.

    Alexandra Baackes is a traveling writer, designer, and underwater videographer, currently in her third year of living as a full-time nomad. You can follow her adventures on her blog Alex in Wanderland.

     

  • Solo Female Travel: Capturing a fleeting life with Christina Gmyr

    Solo Female Travel: Capturing a fleeting life with Christina Gmyr

    We’re back! This series was sparked by a question from a female reader of mine and it’s suddenly taken off – I’m losing track of the interviews in the pipeline and I’m even receiving emails from bloggers requesting to be featured. I’m very happy about this – it makes my life a whole lot easier 🙂 (more…)

  • Solo Female Travel: Finding your GRRR for travel with Christine Ka’aloa

    Solo Female Travel: Finding your GRRR for travel with Christine Ka’aloa

    It’s been a few weeks but I’m finally back with another entry in my Solo Female Travel series. The idea behind this series was to bring a female travel perspective to my blog, but with each interview I’m finding that I learn quite a few travel tips myself. So, for the guys, I definitely encourage you to read through these as well!

    Anyway, let’s get to it. Today I’m excited to welcome to the blog the extremely well travelled Christine Ka’aloa from GRRRL Traveler.

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    Introduce yourself! Who are you?

    My name is Christine Ka’aloa.  I am a female solo traveler, who took a gap year to live and work in Korea and travel. I write for GRRRLTRAVELER, a solo travel blog and YouTube vlog focused on solo travel, travel survival tips and traveling in Asia, Southeast Asia and South Korea.

    What was the first trip you took abroad by yourself? What was your inspiration?

    France was my first journey abroad; I visited a girlfriend from Hawaii, who was teaching English in a small village in the south of France. While it wasn’t my first solo trip, it was my first time flying abroad alone. Many experienced solo travelers overlook that difficulty, but for many first timers, flying to another country alone is a big deal and terrifying if you’ve never done it before. Afterall, it’s your first time encountering language barriers, dealing with the confusion of immigration and airport signs look different.

    Anyways, I had just broken up with my boyfriend and then my grandmother passed away, at the same time. I was an emotional mess.   But there’s nothing like Paris, the gorgeous French countryside and good-looking Frenchmen to soothe you. As an artist, I was a huge Francophile already, interested in the art, language and culture, so the high of living and traveling there for a month was very exciting to me. It injected me back into the adventure of life, the romance of travel and I was catapulted back into the world of the living!

    What is the biggest thing you have learned about yourself while travelling solo?

    It’s hard to pick just one, because I’m constantly learning with solo travel. Often, I learn I’m adventurous, capable of creating the type of world I like living in and above all, resourceful in handling all the fears or last minute difficulties that arise in travel.

    When you realize you can get yourself out of tight or unpredictable situations, you begin to feel more confident. You trust yourself more and gaining that confidence is pretty kickass.

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    Taking a tuk-tuk in Hanoi, Vietnam

    The biggest concern for travelling solo as a female is safety. How do you get over that fear? What steps do you take to make sure you stay safe while on the road?

    I don’t know if you get over that fear. Fear is largely what keeps you safe, so there’s a healthy aspect to it. With safety, the best you can do is prepare, research the dangers and cultural etiquette of a country beforehand. For me travel is like breathing. There’s no question about whether you want to do it or not. You simply know you must find a way. So I try to be proactive about it. I try to build safety into the way I travel.  Here’s some of my solo travel safety tips for women (and men).

    My safety guard is up 70-85% of the time. It sounds like a lot but it’s not and I still have fun.. Sometimes, it just adds to the sense of adventure.  If I were to go jogging in my neighborhood at night in the U.S., my guard is at 85-90% alert. I’m aware of everything around me, careful of corners and dark alleys. Same with travel. If I don’t know what’s around a corner, I need to be alert and ready.

    Many people are reluctant to travel solo because they feel like they’ll be alone and won’t meet anyone. What’s your experience?

    Traveling alone, I’ve realized that you’re only as alone as you want to be. I didn’t know this when I started, but there’s a lot of friendly travelers and locals out there, who want to make friends and are looking for partners to do things with.

    Solo travel also pushes you to make more friends, because your only resource outside yourself are strangers. If I’m in a group of friends or with a partner, I don’t meet many people and I remain shy. But alone, I’m forced to interact and ask others for help, my personality comes out and this brings more people into my life. Being solo has actually enhanced my social life.

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    Jeju Island, Korea meeting Haeneyo, UNESCO free divers – these ladies still dive for seafood at their age!

    What tips do you have for packing light as a female?

    I’m not sure if they’re tips I’d tell other women to follow (laughing).  I don’t pack for the woman in me, but for the solo traveler, who doesn’t want to be her own Sherpa.  Believe me, my back still remembers having to carry heavy packs. These days, maybe I’m just getting older but I like being comfortable and light.

    Of all the clothes I pack, I know I’ll probably only use the same three outfits. That’s my habit. The three-outfit rule is pretty common, I hear. I also try to make sure my outfits are versatile.

    How do you afford your travels, and what tips can you share for keeping costs down while on the road?

    I make very little money from my blog, so I also have freelance jobs.  At the moment, I’m a struggling actress and trying to regain my old crew job as a camera operator in reality TV.  When I travel, I need to be smart, resourceful and I take buses vs. bullet trains and airplanes.

    As for keeping costs down on the road, I always go local. I eat street food, use public transportation and stay at guesthouses and hostels. It feels like a more authentic and unfiltered way to experience a country, as well.

    Being a solo traveler, I’ll also try to find other travelers to share expenses with, either taxi rides, even occasionally rooms.

    Christine’s vlog on catching buses in foreign countries:

    What’s the weirdest thing you’ve eaten in your travels?

    Bundegi or silkworm larvae is a common snack in Korea. I’m largely vegetarian but there are times as a traveler, you just have to try something culturally peculiar, just to have the experience. Bad mistake. It had a smell and after taste which made an indelible impression on me.  It made me very distrustful of Korean food for half the year I was living in Korea and every time I passed them at street fairs or traditional markets, my stomach lurched from the smell.

    What is one place you have been that was completely different to what you expected it would be?

    Malaysia. It’s hard not to start to compare countries when you’re traveling through Southeast Asia. When you’re mindblown, country after country, you expect that high to carry through all countries. But countries can start to feel “Same same…”  after the first one or two night markets or in the sense of Malaysia… Chinatowns.

    Malaysia’s Chinatowns aren’t as gritty, chaotic or noisy as in other places. Knowing Chinese culture has an influence in Malay culture, I think I was disappointed by how clean the Chinatowns were! (laughs)   Also, I’m largely vegetarian, so street food wise and outside Kuala Lumpur, I had difficulty finding food.

    Finding vegetarian street food in Malaysia (finally!)
    Finding vegetarian street food in Malaysia (finally!)

    OK, a couple of fun questions – who’s your celebrity crush?

    I’m attracted to a combination of humor, good dancing, a bit of dorkiness, passion and intensity. I’ll make an effort to watch an Akshay Kumar movie. I adore Bollywood films, even if they’re often cheesy. I like men who can be naively silly in one beat and then heroic in another. I also like guys who can dance! My other decadent pleasure are French films. I like Romaine Dupris. I think he’s an incredible actor to watch and I find his intensity, very sexy.

    And, which country have you been to that, in your opinion, has the most handsome men?

    The first country that turned my head was France. (laughs) The men run a bit similar to the women there. There’s always this cool, intellectually aloof Jean Luc Godard demeanor that makes them attractive to me.  And the accent, ooh la-la!

    Koreans fall second. Living in Korea, I found Koreans to be a beautiful people. I didn’t see many ugly Koreans. Maybe Korea gets a little help from plastic surgeons too, but it still works for me. Of the Asian gene pool, Koreans are surprisingly tall.  A lot of women who move to Korea, who honestly claim to have no interest in Asian men, change when they’re in Korea.  I was one of them.

    Are you a nomad for life? Why? Why not?

    Yes and no. Relocating for work is very much a part of my life and in that regard, it keeps me partially nomadic and I love it.  I need movement, crave it. If I stay too long in a place without growth or change, it feels like a Chinese torture chamber of sticking toothpicks under my nails.

    But I will always need a home base or an apartment to come home to, if only just to drop my bags. I need to feel connected to an identity and sense of purpose.

    When I was living in New York, working in television, I’d travel to/live in different states anywhere from a day to a month. Sometimes, the relocating was constant and home was just a place to do my laundry. I liked that, because I could feel nomadic, while also knowing there was greater purpose and bigger vision that I was working towards with others. To collaborate, work with others and contribute my skills towards a goal is fulfilling to me.  Backpacking for seven months through Asia/Southeast Asia, I didn’t have that strength of vision or collaboration process and there were times I felt like a tumbleweed, without cares or goals. There are times, traveling non-stop without a plan, feels empty and meaningless to me. I learned a lot about myself through this and If I did another long-term backpacking trip, I’d do it differently.

    I love my freedom, but I also have a warm spot for my chains.

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    Working as press crew on the red carpet at a Hawaii Five-O premiere ( I also had a speaking part on the show!)

    Lastly, for those planning or considering their very first trip alone, what advice do you have for them? And where would you recommend they go?

    I’d say jump and think about how you’re going to make it happen on the way down. Seriously. When you buy your ticket, everything becomes a tangible reality and your mind instantly goes into engineering a way to make it work.

    There are many countries, which are low in crime and I’d start with those until you begin to feel more confident.

    Technically, my first solo trip was India, which was completely by accident. It actually turned out to be one of the greatest solo trips of my life, but I wouldn’t recommend it to everyone as a starter country. My first planned solo trip was Thailand and it was a fantastic country for soloists to start in, because there’s many travelers and solo ones too.  Transportation is easy, costs of getting around and eating are relatively low.

    Christine is a solo female traveler who writes to inspire others to find their GRRR for travel. You can read more about her adventures by checking out her blog GRRRLTRAVELER.com or by connecting with her through her social media channels:

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  • Solo Female Travel: Ashley Fleckenstein Shares Her Travel Wisdom

    Solo Female Travel: Ashley Fleckenstein Shares Her Travel Wisdom

    I’ve had a lot (well, around 4) questions from girls about the intricacies of travelling alone as a female. Naturally, I’m not very well placed to answer these so I went looking for someone who was. Hopefully a lot of your questions were answered last week in the first interview of my Solo Female Travel Series with Anna Zalazar.

    This week, I’m back with another female globetrotter to share her travel wisdom. I found this interview particularly interesting; it seems we both travel in rather different ways so it was nice to hear things from a different angle. Hopefully you guys will learn a few things from her as well.

    Anyway, here we go! This week I’m excited to welcome to the blog Ashley Fleckenstein from Ashley Abroad.

    Ashley Fleckenstein

    Introduce yourself! Who are you?

    Hi! I’m Ashley, a 23-year old travel blogger, yogi and francophile. I blog over at AshleyAbroad.com about everything from living in France to backpacking solo in Southeast Asia.

    What was the first trip you took abroad by yourself? What was your inspiration?

    When I was 20 I spent the summer working as an au pair in France. My boss gave me a week off for vacation so I hastily booked tickets to Ireland and England. When I landed in Dublin a girl working at the hostel told me she loved visiting Galway as a little girl so on a whim I booked a bus ticket there. There is truly nothing more freeing than solo travel!

    What is the biggest thing you have learned about yourself while travelling solo?

    Two main things- that I’m an introvert and I need a community around me.

    The biggest concern for solo female travellers is safety. How do you get over that fear? What steps do you take to make sure you stay safe while on the road?

    Along with carrying a small can of pepper spray (which I’ve never had to use but gives me peace of mind), I just try to exercise the same caution abroad as I do at home: I don’t wear flashy clothes or jewelry, I avoid rough neighborhoods and I dress somewhat conservatively. I also am willing to pay more for my safety, such as taking a cab home late at night rather than walking.

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    Picnicking on the Seine in Paris, France

    What tips do you have for packing light as a female?

    Don’t pack too light- that was my mistake for years. I not only looked goofy in all of my photos, I also had to wash my clothes every three days and never knew what to wear. Packing too light is just as annoying as packing too much- trust me!

    And also, this one applies to both men and women- use packing cubes. They make packing and repacking such a non-issue.

    Many people are reluctant to travel solo because they feel like they’ll be alone and won’t meet anyone. What’s your experience?

    Well, actually you will be alone sometimes. And that’s fine! Bring an iPod for long train and bus rides.

    But you will also meet other people. When I travel I rarely have to day-trip or go out alone as I meet other travelers at the hostel. Being a solo traveler forces you to be outgoing and friendly and definitely improves your social skills.

    And I only enjoy solo travel for about two weeks- any longer and I find it really exhausting to meet new people all the time.

    How do you afford your travels, and what tips can you share for keeping costs down while on the road?

    I actually just wrote a whole post about that! But my biggest tip is to sign up for a Charles Schwab debit card, use Mint.com to track expenses and book your flights really far in advance.

    I afford my travels by saving up prior to my trips and then working as a freelance writer and blogger on the road. On the road I usually travel really cheaply: hostels, street food, the works.

    But once in a while I splurge on a nice meal or hotel room- it’s necessary after a few weeks in noisy hostels! I also shell out for adventure activities like canyoning, scuba-diving or parasailing.

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    Canyoning in Dalat, Vietnam

    What’s the weirdest thing you’ve eaten in your travels?

    Probably lamb heart in Istanbul or civet poo coffee in Bali. And I actually thought both were really tasty, believe it or not!

    What is one place you have been that was completely different to what you expected it would be?

    Southern Thailand was not what I expected. Instead of an untouched paradise I found flea-bitten dogs, snarls of phone wires and beaches filled with drunk backpackers. Despite my initial disappointment I had an absolute blast.

    OK, a couple of fun questions – who’s your celebrity crush?

    Eddie Redmayne.

    And which country have you been to that, in your opinion, has the most handsome men?

    Fun question! I really like tall men so I’d have to say Germany or Sweden. And I love an Irish accent.

    Ashley Fleckenstein
    Outside a temple in Ubud, Bali

    Are you a nomad for life? Why? Why not?

    Definitely not. I love having a home base and a community. I’d say I’m much more of an expat than a traveler. Ideally I’d love to be self-employed and spend nine months a year in one place and the other three traveling… but only time will tell!

    Lastly, for those planning or considering their very first trip alone, what advice do you have for them? And where would you recommend they go?

    Western Europe or Southeast Asia. They’re both safe, fascinating and frequented by plenty of other independent travelers. Needless to say Western Europe is much, much more expensive than Southeast Asia.

    Ashley Fleckenstein is a baguette-partial freelance writer who moved to Paris at 21 and has been traveling the world ever since. You can read more about her adventures on her blog, ashleyabroad.com. Her ebook The Insider’s Guide To Au Pairing In Europe, which teaches others how to break into au pairing so they can earn an income while travelling the world, is available now.

  • Solo Female Travel: Anna Zalazar Talks Life On The Road

    Solo Female Travel: Anna Zalazar Talks Life On The Road

    So often I meet girls on the road who say things like, “Gosh I wish I was a guy so I could travel alone too” or “How do you travel by yourself? I guess it’s different for you, you’re a guy.”

    It upsets me, because I’ve met many female travellers who, with a little street savvy and common sense, travel the world solo and have the time of their life. In my experience, the world is a friendly place to both guys and girls, and travelling it solo seems to bless you with some of the most unique and memorable experiences that you will have in your lifetime.

    Obviously female travel is not something I can write with authority on, so as a treat to my female readers, I’m starting an interview series where female globetrotters will share their tips and advice on solo adventuring around the world. Hopefully they can inspire you to break out of your shell, pack a backpack and hit the road on your own.

    Today I’m excited to be joined by the lovely Anna from Annzventures.

    Anna in Camiguin

    Introduce yourself! Who are you?

    I’m Anna and I’m an adventurer, storyteller and writer at Annzventures.com.

    What was the first trip you took abroad by yourself? What was your inspiration?

    I’ve always been an adventurer at heart and have always been fascinated by US National Parks. When I was a little girl, I used to just see these natural wonders in books and would day dream of one day seeing them. When I came to America, I said I’ll make my dreams come true.  So in 2008, I took a break from work and went for a long weekend of nature adventure to Jackson Hole Wyoming by myself. Nobody believed me until I came back with pictures. To date, it’s still on the top of my most memorable travel experiences.

    What is the biggest thing you have learned about yourself while travelling solo?

    That I’m always in good company. My solo travels have taught me to really enjoy not only life but also the company of myself. Fun has always been on top of my priorities and it’s something I take with me wherever I go.

    Anna in Edinburgh, Scotland
    Anna in Edinburgh, Scotland

    The biggest concern for travelling solo as a female is safety. How do you get over that fear? What steps do you take to make sure you stay safe while on the road?

    I think every female who has traveled solo, whether short term or long term will always have some fear and each one has a different approach to it.

    Here are my tips:

    Blend in  I spent a year traveling solo in Asia so I pretty much blended in. I’m naturally fair skinned which is ideal for Asians but I intentionally made myself as tanned as I can be so not to attract too much attention from locals.

    Stay present – Try to stay as present and aware of your surroundings wherever you may be. Also, I cannot stress this enough but easy on the alcohol.

    Walk tall Knowing any form of self-defense is something I recommend every woman whether she wants to travel or not. I’ve had self-defense training from my years of practicing martial arts so it’s something I will always have with me. This has given me confidence that I can protect myself if need be.

    Final tip – The best way to keep yourself safe is to avoid being seen as a target. Your posture can say so much about you and people can smell weakness from afar. But if someone sees you as a confident and strong woman, your chances of being on the safe side will always be higher. Of course anything can go wrong but knowing some form of self-defense puts you in a much better position.

    What tips do you have for packing light as a female?

    Dresses! If you’re traveling to warm or hot and humid countries, pack dresses. Not only is it one piece of clothing, it’s also a chic way to feel very feminine wherever you might be traveling.

    Many people are reluctant to travel solo because they feel like they’ll be alone and won’t meet anyone. What’s your experience?

    The beginning of a solo trip will be the most challenging, added to that the fact that you’re away from your comfort zone. But I always tell people that as long as you’re not traveling to places where no human being lives, chances are you will meet people. The truth is it will only take a few hours before you start meeting people in a similar situation and you will have instant travel friends.

    Anna in Milan, Italy

    How do you afford your travels, and what tips can you share for keeping costs down while on the road?

    I worked in the US for five years saving money before I set off to do long-term travel. I’m also a big travel hacker and have saved a ton of air miles that kept my airfare costs to the minimum. In terms of affording travel, there really is no secret to it, you work, you save then you take off.

    For keeping costs down, my number one rule is negotiate. I grew up in the Philippines so it’s something I’m naturally skilled at. But I know a lot of people are not comfortable doing this. They say you can only do it in Asia, but in my experience, I’ve also received better deals while I was traveling in Europe. Like for instance, I got free dinners included in my stay at a hostel in Portugal. Negotiating is simply just asking if they can give you a discount or maybe some freebies.

    Next to negotiating is to travel slow. Constantly moving from one place to another is not only exhausting, it’s also more expensive. Staying longer at cities and islands I loved has enabled me to enjoy my travels more and keep my costs down.

    What’s the weirdest thing you’ve eaten in your travels?

    None. Food is probably the only thing that I’m not adventurous with. I’m very picky with what I eat and try to stay as healthy as possible even on the road.

    Anna at Brighton Beach, England
    Anna at Brighton Beach, England

    What is one place you have been that was completely different to what you expected it would be?

    London. I avoided this city in my trips to Europe for the longest time because I thought it was just too expensive and too cold. Alas, a friend invited me and I was surprised to find out that you can still travel on a budget in this city and despite the erratic weather, it’s one of the most fun cities I’ve ever been to. At first I hated it, then it became one of my favorite cities.

    OK, a couple of fun questions – who’s your celebrity crush?

    Bryan Greenberg.

    And, which country have you been to that, in your opinion, has the most handsome men?

    Ha! I’m answering this one for the ladies. If we’re talking people watching and eye candies, my girlfriends, gay friends and I enjoyed it the most in Spain and England specifically Madrid and London. I can even throw in Portugal and Switzerland for the runner ups. But I’ve always found American men not only handsome but also having the most magnetic personalities even in my travels so my vote actually goes to USA. 😉

    Anna in Nevada
    Anna in Nevada

    Are you a nomad for life? Why? Why not?

    A nomad for life, no. If I want to travel forever, I can definitely do it and will for sure find ways in making it possible. But after having traveled for so long, I found myself craving having a home to build and keep my habits. I’m quite an ambitious woman so I tend to think long term. I’m working on different areas of my life and it’s more manageable for me to achieve my personal goals if I have a home base.

    For me it’s all about finding your balance, following your bliss and not what other people think you should be doing. I don’t let other people’s ideas, no matter how shiny they might seem, define what my dreams will be. It’s all about creating a life I love and the one that suits me. I found that after leaving New York to see the world, I still find it to be one of the best cities in the world and have been enjoying life back here. Also, geographically speaking, it’s the best place to have a base for my future travels, just like Manila is my base in Asia. I’m very lucky to have the best of both worlds. Nomad for life, not for me. But traveler for life, definitely!

    Lastly, for those planning or considering their very first trip alone, what advice do you have for them? And where would you recommend they go?

    My advice for them is very simple. Don’t overplan, save as much as you can, book a ticket and just go. For first timers, go to Thailand. But if you can go a little further away from your comfort zone, I’d say Philippines.

    Anna is the Chief Adventure Officer of Annzventures.com. She believes that every woman should do solo travel at least once in her life and her blog is all about inspiring women to do so. You can continue to follow her adventures at www.annzventures.com, or connect with her on Twitter at @AnnaZalazar.

     

    What are your experiences with solo female travel? Tips? Questions? Inspirations? Horror stories? We’d love to hear them, write them up in the comments below!

    Also be sure to check out her blog over at Annzventures. If you have a question, chances are she has already answered it!

    Until next time, travellers.