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  • An Introduction To Slow Travel

    An Introduction To Slow Travel

    Today I want to introduce you to a travel style that dominates almost all of my trips overseas.

    While I’ve always considered myself both a backpacker and budget traveller, I’ve also been a very slow traveller.

    In five years of full time travel, I’ve only visited 30+ countries. That might sound like a lot, but I know people that have done more than that in six months. In fact, some tours in Europe take you through 15 countries in 30 days. It’s crazy.

    Slow Travel is the opposite. Instead of whizzing through different cities, you just pick one or two. Then you settle down in that city, maybe for a month, maybe for three, maybe for the whole year. You find a place to stay, make friends, find your favourite bars and restaurants, buy a subway card. It’s like you’re an expat, only with a few less strings and a little more freedom.

    Why Slow Travel?

    Travel can be about a lot more than just sightseeing and taking photos and having a few drinks with some new friends at the hostel. All that stuff is awesome, but what if you want to go deeper?

    You need time. Three or four days, a week, that’s not enough. If you want to pull back all the layers of a place, you need time for that connection to grow. Think about your relationship to your own hometown. How long did it take you to find all the coolest restaurants, meet people, build friendships and relationships, find the fastest way to walk home, meet the owner of your favourite bar, join different classes and events, settle into your neighbourhood and become a part of the community? Many months. Probably years. Maybe you’re still doing those things today. A connection to a place simply cannot be built in a matter of days.

    Even mundane things like daily commutes, grocery shopping, and going to the gym will teach you so much about a city and its culture. Things you will never experience on a short two or three day trip.

    How do you choose where to go?

    It’s totally up to you, of course. I generally base my choices around three things:

    Weather

    I chase the summer. I think it will be a long time before I spend a winter in New Zealand again.

    Affordability

    I choose a place where the rent is <$500 per month, if possible. And food and transport must be cheap also. I try to aim for a budget of between $1,000-$1,500 per month.

    Language

    I try to spend time in places where I am an active student of the language. There are various languages I’m studying and finding a country where I can be immersed in one of them is important.

    Other considerations

    A few other things, like if there is surf, internet speed, if I have friends there, safety etc. are all things I think about, but they are minor considerations. I am generally open to travelling and living in any country, as long as it’s not a war zone or on the verge of a meltdown.

    Where do you stay?

    I’ve stayed in hostels for up to a month, but I generally try to find myself a small apartment. I’m a pretty simple guy, so I don’t need anything fancy – just a bathroom, kitchen, internet and a bed. Frills like air conditioning, hot water, television and a microwave are nice but not a requirement. It’s usually easy to find something like this for under $500 per month (sometimes a lot less). I use Airbnb a lot and bargain for a monthly rate, and also local rental websites (use Google), Facebook groups, and real estate agents. Also a good idea is to ask a few local friends for good websites to check once you hit the ground. I always forget to take photos, but here are some places I’ve stayed in before:

    Cuzco – $180/month:

    Krakow – $490/month:

    Manila – $550/month:

    What you see above are short-term rates (4-8 weeks). No leases were ever signed, no bonds were ever paid, no background checks were done, and most stays were between 1-2 months. All I did was show up with my backpack and hand over a wad of cash, and they gave me the keys. You pay a premium for this convenience.

    If you do stay longer term (3-6 months+) you could expect another 20-40% off the rates above. You may get asked to sign papers and pay deposits like a normal tenant, but you should come off better off in the long run.

    I have a post with my Airbnb process and also a referral link for a free $20 voucher you can grab here. As I said earlier, it also helps to talk to an agent when you land, and browse some local websites/newspapers or Craigslist.

    What do you do for money?

    The most obvious thing you can do is use your savings. I talk about this extensively in my free ebook.

    The next most obvious option is to find a job! Jobs I see people picking up regularly are teaching English, taking zumba and yoga classes, bartending, or just any odd job you can find. If you have a terrible job at home, why not find a terrible job while you travel instead. It’ll be more fun, I promise. In most cases, your biggest hurdle will be getting a work visa, rather than the job itself.

    If you have mobile skills, you can try your hand at freelancing. If you can create income flow before you arrive, you will be set from day one in your new home. I have an extensive guide on getting started in freelancing here.

    Becoming even more popular these days is remote work, where you ask your boss if you can ‘work from home’ for a period of time. Whether or not they’re cool with ‘home’ being 3,000 miles away is another story. But this is the future – more and more big companies and making remote work standard practice today. If you’re up for it, try it. Here’s a short intro to the process.

    Lastly, if you have a house or a long-term lease back home, trying renting or sub-leasing your apartment out on Airbnb while you travel. I know a lot of people doing this, including hosts I’ve been renting from. It works.

    Lastly, I discuss many of these options and more, complete with resources, in my post The Practical Guide To Making Money While Travelling. Check it out.

    What do you do all day?

    I actually get asked this question a lot. What did you do for three whole months?!

    Usually I go to a place with a goal in mind – learn a language or skill, or maybe I just have a shit ton of work to do and need to stay put for a while. Here’s a recap of some of my Slow Travel experiences:

    1-2 months:

    Five weeks in Malaga, Spain to study Spanish. Stayed in the school dorms (2010).

    Eight weeks in Moshi, Tanzania as a volunteer teacher. Stayed in a volunteer’s hostel (2011).

    One month in Boracay, Philippines to learn martial arts. Stayed in a small hotel, negotiated long term rate (2013).

    One month in Montpellier, France to learn French. Stayed in an Airbnb. (2015).

    Six weeks in Dar Es Salaam, Tanzania to self-study Swahili and work on my ebook. Stayed in a hotel, negotiated long term rate (2015).

    One month in Kampala, Uganda to work on my ebook. Stayed in an Airbnb (2015).

    Class photo, Tanzania, 2011.

    Boxing class, Philippines, 2013.

    3-6 months:

    Three months in Cuzco, Peru to study Spanish. Stayed in an apartment I found in the newspaper (2011).

    Three months in Quito, Ecudaor to study salsa. Stayed in an Airbnb (2014).

    Salsa class, Ecuador, 2014.

    6+ months:

    Ten months in Shanghai, China to study Chinese. Stayed in student accommodation on scholarship (2012).

    Six months in Manila, Philippines to build my freelance business and blog. Stayed in apartments I found online (2013).

    Chinese class, Shanghai, 2012.

    Between work, blogging, working out, sightseeing, studying the language as well as whatever other goals you’ve set for your stay, it’s pretty easy to stay busy. Sometimes you’ll find simple things like grocery shopping takes a few hours out of your day, since you can’t read or understand anything.

    The key is to go in with a mission – what do you want to learn? When you leave, what new skills or knowledge would you like to take with you? This turns your “travels” into a goal-oriented experience, rather than just a holiday.

    How do you make friends?

    This is a question I get often, and the answer is pretty simple: You make friends overseas exactly the same way you make friends at home.

    It’s actually easier overseas. As a foreigner people have a lot of questions for you and make an effort to make you feel welcome. I’ve had many people come up to me on the street and ask me where I’m from and what I’m doing, which of course, never happens in New Zealand.

    As a new kid in town, you’re forced to put yourself out there and present yourself to the community. Like I said, this is no different to when you’re at home – you join the gym, go to classes, go to bars, attend events. Of course it is harder when you know absolutely nobody in town, but that’s a challenge you need to embrace. There was a time when you couldn’t pay me to go out to a bar or an event alone, but now I attend almost everything by myself. Few travellers would disagree that travel tests your social skills to the limit, but this is a blessing – it changes every aspect of your life for the better. As a lifetime introvert, this has been doubly true for me.

    Some communities that are “easy-access” and you can join immediately are language exchanges, sports clubs, gyms (including yoga, boxing, crossfit and martial arts), pub crawls, Meetup, Couchsurfing, co-working spaces, any type of classes, expat bars. Of course you’ll meet many people in the natural course of your life too, such as your co-workers, flatmates, neighbours etc.

    Do you need to quit your job?

    The concept of Slow Travel is similar and in some ways complementary to the Mini Retirement, which I wrote about last month.

    The difference is, Slow Travel relates purely to travel, regardless of what is happening in your career or life back home. Even if you don’t plan on leaving your job and only have four weeks to travel, you can still spend that Slow Travelling in a chosen city.

    Back when I was an accountant, I took five weeks of extended leave and spent the entirety of it in Málaga, Spain, which turned out to be one of the most powerful experiences of my life. In fact, I credit it almost entirely for setting me on the journey I’m on today, and I didn’t need to quit my job to enjoy it.

    Slow Travel is not so much about spending long periods of time in a place, but more about spending whatever time you do have to appreciate the daily, the normal, the routine – this will create the deep connection that so many travellers talk about – the type of experience that opens your mind to everything the city, and the world, has to offer.

    Managing your Fomo

    One of the biggest challenges with Slow Travel is the constant Fomo (fear of missing out). Instead of spending a month or two in Spain, you might want to try and do it all – partying in Barcelona, wining and dining in Paris, sunbathing in the south of France, eating pizza in Italy and skiing the Swiss Alps. That is a much sexier story, will get a lot more high fives and dropped jaws from your co-workers, and will triple the amount of likes you get on Instagram.

    But the important thing to remember here is your ‘why’. Are you going travelling to take lots of great photos and have fun and come home with a sexy globetrotting story (which is fine), or are you going to invest your time and energy into new skills, languages, ideas, communities and a way of life? One is not better than the other, and in fact I encourage you to enjoy both modes of travel during your life, as I have.

    But you do need to commit to one, and don’t let all the other what-ifs impede your experience. There are endless places on the planet to visit. You will never see them all, so it is pointless to let your mind constantly wander elsewhere and second-guess your choices. Choose the experience that you want and embrace it.

    A word of warning

    Slow Travel is tough.

    You will suffer periods of loneliness, which is unavoidable. The plus side is you learn to enjoy the company of yourself, which will greatly curb your fear of loneliness for future trips. I’ve come to believe alone time is extremely important, both for periods of reflection, rest, and clarity of mind.

    You will doubt yourself a lot. What the hell am I doing here? Almost every time I Slow Travel I second guess myself and get the urge to go home or go somewhere else after a few days. But if you stick it out, and take the time to create a home in your new city, the doubts will evaporate quickly. For me, this adjustment period is two weeks – I know if I can just get over the two weeks of settling in, everything will come right. And it does. There is so much to learn and enjoy in Slow Travel. Good things take time, as always.

    Finally, it will be hard to say goodbye. This is a horrible feeling, and one that I don’t think I will ever get used to. When you make new friends, become enamoured with new places, start relationships, invest your time and emotions and life into a place and its people, it will never be easy to say goodbye. For some it gets easier, for some it gets harder, but it it never becomes easy. The only comfort is in knowing you can come back some day. This is one of the paradoxes of travel – such amazing experiences make us want to stay longer in our newfound homes, but they also inspire us to keep travelling. Our hearts are always pulled in both ways.

    Travel safe,

    Bren

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  • Lone Traveller? 25 Expert Tips For Your First Solo Trip

    Lone Traveller? 25 Expert Tips For Your First Solo Trip

    So, you’ve finally done it. You’ve decided you’re going to quit your job (or take a shizload of leave) and set off on an adventure around the world…alone.

    Exciting, right?

    But being a lone traveller brings with it a huge amount of fears, doubts and second thoughts. What if you make no friends? What if you get sick? What if your bag gets stolen? What if you just hate the whole experience and want to go home?

    Let me tell you, every lone traveller has the same fears running through their head, and even after several years on the road I still get nervous when heading off on a new adventure. It’s normal, and you shouldn’t let it stop you from having the most incredible experience of your life.

    But, it helps to have a small idea of what you should expect, so below are my own tips for making your trip the greatest adventure possible.

    1. Set a date

    You need to make it real.

    If you just sit at your desk and say, “Hmm, I’ll do it this year sometime, or maybe I’ll just wait and see how things go and do it next year” I can promise you, it’s never going to happen. Especially with solo travel. There is always an excuse not to do something.

    Set a date, and book a ticket. That way there’s no going back.

    2. Save enough money before you go

    There is nothing worse than running out of money on the road. Some say you only need $5,000 to travel the world for a year. Others say $10,000 and some even say $20,000.

    The truth is, there is no ‘right’ number. Every traveller is different and wants different experiences that cost different amounts of money.

    My advice is, just save everything you possibly can while you’re at home. Give up all your meaningless purchases like Starbucks and shoes and sunglasses. Be the cheapest bastard you possibly can. Small change adds up, and in some countries a few dollars goes a very long way (for the price of a New Zealand coffee you could feed yourself for 3 or 4 days in some countries).

    3. Don’t be cheap 

    As a budget traveller, I’m always mindful of where my money is going. But sometimes you just need to splurge. Your budget may be tight, but don’t miss out on those tapas in Spain, or that Peking duck in China.

    When a unique experience requires some spending, do it.

    There are far more forgettable things you can forgo while travelling, such as expensive taxi rides, a nice hotel room, or an expensive night out on the booze. And 5 years later you definitely won’t regret the missing $30, but you will regret missing out on something special while you had the chance.

    4. Don’t sleep in

    You can sleep at home. I’ve continually regretted trips where I spent a lot of time sleeping from hangovers, jet lag or just pure laziness. As a lone traveller this is even more likely, as you rarely have plans or someone keeping tabs on you.

    I spent a week in Buenos Aires just drinking in my hostel and clubbing with my new roommates. I didn’t even get out to see a tango show, or try the famous steak, or watch the Boca Juniors play. A few years later, a guy in my hostel said, “You’ve been to BA? My gosh, isn’t it just the most incredible city ever?” and proceeded to tell me about all the shows and foods and places he experienced. Needless to say I hung my head in shame and told him I didn’t get the chance to see any of that.

    My next trip there will definitely be a whole lot different.

    5. Get a good camera and take photos!

    When I started this blog, I had so many stories I wanted to share and was so disappointed that I didn’t have the photos to go along with them. Weird as it may seem, I actually spent most of my time backpacking South America without a camera, as I thought I could just collect the memories ‘in my head’.

    What a fool!

    Now I make sure to take photos of everything, and am excited to look back on them all when I’m an old man in a wheelchair. Do yourself a favour and take as many photos as you can! And make sure you get a lot of good ones of yourself in all those amazing destinations.

    If you want to learn how to take amazing photos of yourself as a lone traveller, check out my guide here.

    6. Don’t forget the people back home

    I spend most of my time on the road these days, but I always make sure I go back home at Christmas and spend it with my family. I also stay in touch with my Mum and friends on Facebook/Whatsapp/Skype almost daily. I don’t buy gifts or souvenirs, because I don’t really see the point (unless I see something really special) but I always make sure to let them know where I am and that I’m ok.

    Just because you’re a globetrotter now, don’t think you’re too cool to stay in touch!

    7. Buy the right backpack

    Let me tell you, having the wrong backpack will make your life misery. And I say backpack because you really do need a backpack.

    Suitcases are clunky and and hard to move around with. Don’t think you’ll have beautifully paved concrete paths everywhere you go to seamlessly wheel your suitcase around, because you won’t. Sometimes you may unexpectedly need to walk through marsh, or floods, or muddy roads, or sand, or any other type of unfriendly terrain. So a backpack is essential, and you need to make sure you get the right one!

    Go to a hiking/backpack store and ask the staff there which backpack suits your body type. You don’t have to buy from them, but do make sure you get some expert advice. I personally use a hybrid backpack (a backpack with wheels on the bottom). 90% of the time I can wheel it around, but that other 10% I am extremely happy I have those backpack straps on the back. If you prefer carry-on only, make sure you’ve got the right size! This chart will help.

    Don’t forget, a backpack is like a lone traveller badge that we wear with pride! The more battered the better. So make sure you get something sturdy too.

    Want to see what’s in my backpack? Click here.

    8. Don’t overpack!

    When preparing to travel, lay out all your clothes and all your money. Then take half the clothes and twice the money.” – Susan Heller

    This might be one of the best travel quotes in history. After my last trip, I decided to “review” all the things I had packed. I realised that during my 6 month trip, I had packed around 7kg worth of stuff that I didn’t even use once. That included a pair of boots, a couple pairs of jeans, a beanie, some thermal clothing, a handful of shirts and some other miscellaneous things. Yet I’d carried these things all around Uganda, Tanzania, Ethiopia, Kenya, Singapore and The Philippines.

    I’m sure they enjoyed their overseas trip, but my life on the road would’ve been so much easier had I just left all that stuff at home. Remember, as unbelievable as it sounds, other countries have shops too! If you need stuff, you can buy it.

    9. Do some planning beforehand

    While I don’t suggest planning your entire itinerary out to the hour, it helps to have a few things planned before you go.

    Write down the cities and places you want to visit and how to get there, restaurants and dishes you want to try, the activities you want to do and also a handful of places you could stay.

    There have been too many times where I’ve arrived in a country with absolutely no plans, and spent the next 3 days in the hostel doing all my destination research. It’s a huge waste of travel time which could be spent out and about experiencing the city.

    Be smart and do your destination research at home!

    10. Make local friends

    After my first trip solo trip overseas to Spain, I was so amazed at all the new friendships I had made in such a short time. And then I realised, I didn’t make a single friend who was actually from Spain. If I ever returned, I would have no one to catch up with, no couch to crash on, no one to grab a drink with and reminisce about the ‘good old times’.

    This saddened me and from then on, I made an effort to get to know at least one local person in every place I went. Of course, I didn’t always manage to, but the times I did added such a different dimension to my trip.

    Just recently in Cambodia I was getting a massage and making small talk with my masseuse. She told me she was going to a birthday party later and so I just asked, “Can I come?” She looked at me with a smile and said “Of course!”

    Later that afternoon I enjoyed a karaoke party with a whole bunch of Cambodian people, tried some insane Cambodian street food, and made a heap of new friends. It was all quite a fascinating insight into Cambodian culture and the first alcohol-free karaoke gig I’ve ever been to.

    In the end, it’s all good fun just hanging out in the hostel meeting other backpackers, but connecting with local people can also offer a very unique experience. Couchsurfing is ideal for this, but otherwise, just say hi to people you meet around town (like whoever is sitting next to you on the train or at the bar). It may seem a little weird, but you won’t regret it.

    11. Bring an unlocked phone and get a local sim

    I never really understood this locking phone thing. In New Zealand there’s no such thing as a ‘locked’ phone, as far as I know, and it was only after meeting some American travellers where I learned about these phone networks hacking the phones and setting them to only be used on their networks. That’s fuarking lame.

    Anyway, sim cards in many countries are cheap and it’s easy to get mobile internet on short term packages (such as 3-day, 7-day etc). I can’t tell you how many times Google Maps has saved me from spending the whole day walking around looking for things that were right in front of my face.

    I used to be an advocate of just asking for directions, and still am, but quite often the local people will have never heard of what you’re looking for.

    Particularly if you’re planning on staying for more than a couple of weeks, getting a local sim is a no-brainer (and usually cheaper than roaming).

    12. Don’t get drunk (much)

    Travelling for quite a lot of people these days just means going to the beach and getting drunk for 7 nights and then flying back home. But do you really need to come all the way to Thailand to do that? I just don’t get it.

    I’m kidding. I totally get it. I’ve done that before too and it was heaps of fun.

    But if that’s all you do, you’re probably going to regret it. Maybe just spend half the time drinking and half the time doing other stuff, like trying local food and visiting local markets. Otherwise a few years from now you may look back on those drunken memories and think, “Man, I wish I’d some other stuff too.” 

    13. Don’t be afraid to take time off

    Travelling is exhausting sometimes.

    Maybe it’s all the walking, or just being away from home, or not being able to walk around the hostel naked like you do at home. Often it’s just the constant meeting new people and introducing yourself that can take it’s toll.

    When you get to that point, don’t be afraid to get a private room and just read/sleep/do nothing for a few days. I do it all the time, and it works.

    14. Learn the local language

    It helps to do this before you arrive, but it’s never too late to learn a few words. Everywhere you go, at least learn to count to ten, say hello and goodbye, please and thank you, and any other common phrases you might use.

    In every single country I have been to this has put a smile on people’s faces and makes them feel inclined to treat you that much nicer. Most guidebooks have a good common phrases section, but otherwise a simple Google search will give you all the free lessons you need.

    Want to learn to speak a new language in seven days? Check out my guide here.

    15. Get travel insurance

    I shouldn’t even need to include this but surprisingly there are still a lot of people who leave home without insurance. Travel insurance has literally saved me thousands of dollars while travelling.

    Once I had to see a throat specialist which cost around $700 in China. Insurance picked it up.

    Another time my Grandma passed away while I was travelling and I had to take a last-minute $2,000 flight from Tanzania to Sydney for the funeral. Insurance picked that one up too.

    Once I even got arrested by immigration on trumped up charges, and spent six weeks fighting the case. Travel insurance picked up the lawyer fees, and the “fines” I had to pay.

    Don’t be a travel dummy – get insurance! I use World Nomads.

    For my full guide on how to find travel insurance and why you need it, click here.

    16. Cheaper is not always better

    There was a time when I’d choose a $10, 25-hour bus ride over a $150, 2-hour flight any day of the week.

    That’s changed.

    A 25 hour bus ride is rarely just 25 hours. On a trip that long, you get exhausted. You eat shitty food. You feel worn out afterwards and want to get a good night’s sleep. The next day is spent in recovery mode. You’re lazy and sluggish from all the sitting around and sleeping. You just want to stay in and watch Game of Thrones. That 25 hours can quickly turn into 50 hours before you’re ready to jump out of bed and go exploring again.

    My advice is to take that 2 hour flight. In 4 hours you’ll be checked-in to your room, feeling fresh and getting the most out of your day in whichever city is lucky to have you.

    I also rarely stay in the cheapest hostel, and will happily take a $10 dorm bed over a $4 dorm bed if it means I get a good night’s sleep and am not stuck in some random place 45 minutes outside the city centre. Remember, your time is just as (if not more) important than money.

    17. Slow down mister lone traveller!

    A common mistake with first time travellers is they try and do too much.

    For example, with a month in South East Asia they might try and do 5 days in Thailand, 3 days in Cambodia, a week in Vietnam, 5 days in Laos, 10 days in Malaysia and a couple of nights in Singapore. Now sure, that does sound cool, but here’s the problem(s).

    • You’re going to be exhausted.
    • You’ll barely scratch the surface of each country.
    • You’ll spend a large amount of your budget on flights/buses/trains/taxis/buses.
    • You’ll spend a large amount of your time on planes/buses/trains/taxis/buses.

    On average, getting from your hotel in one country to your hotel in another country will take you around 24 hours of travel time (that includes packing, taxi rides, visa stations, bus/train/plane, customs, waiting for your bag and figuring out how to get to your hotel in the next country).

    6 countries = 6 days, which is 20% of a one month trip.

    That’s a lot of precious time spent sitting on your backside doing nothing.

    For a first time traveller spending one month in South East Asia, I’d probably recommend 3 weeks in one country and a short side trip to another (and maybe one additional country if you really wanted to).

    That way you’ll have the chance to really get under the skin of one country, while getting a nice little glimpse of another. Take your time. The world is not going anywhere (soon).

    18. Go on a date!

    One of the least talked about aspects of travelling is dating. Dating other travellers. Dating a local. Dating anyone.

    While the road is not the greatest place to start a long term relationship, going on a date can be a really memorable way to experience a city. A new city also offers endless date ideas (local markets, shows, plays etc) which will all be completely new to you and interesting to talk about.

    Ask out the waitress at breakfast. Or tell that girl in your dorm you’re taking her for dessert. Maybe even try and hold her hand (gasp).

    19. Stay healthy

    Too tired to head out for dinner. Not getting much sleep. No time to hit the gym. Drinking too much booze. Eating too much junk food.

    Things like this can make my health deteriorate pretty fast when I’m out on the road, and I’m sure it’s true for other travellers too (all the coughing and sniffling in the dorm rooms will tell you that).

    It can be hard, but make a concentrated effort to eat well and get enough rest. Sometimes you might just want to go to the supermarket and buy a bunch of carrots and apples and force em down. Or go for a jog. Or any other small thing that lets your body know you’re thinking about it. Look after yourself, because nothing snuffs out the excitement of travel faster than a few days fighting the flu.

    Read all my tips for staying healthy on the road here.

    20. Learn a new skill

    Every country has traditional sports, dishes and activities that the local people love to do. Have a go at the national sport, or take a language class, or learn to cook a local dish. Why? So you can go back home and show off, of course.

    And also for personal development, and all that stuff.

    21. Don’t get obsessed with getting “off the beaten track”

    There’s a disease in the backpacker community right now called “Too-cool Syndrome”, where some people who’ve been travelling for a while think they’re above all the cliché things to do in town.

    These kinds of people won’t visit the Eiffel Tower in Paris, because of course, they’re way cooler than that. They’re going to see some other tower in some tiny city that’s way cooler instead, because no one’s ever seen it before and they’re going to be the only person on Facebook with a photo in front of this cool other tower. Similarly, they won’t drink Sangria in Spain, or visit the Colosseum in Rome, or see Angkor Wat in Siem Reap, because of course, they’re too cool.

    Don’t become one of these people. There’s a reason why everyone does those cliché things, and a reason why they became cliché in the first place. It’s because they’re awesome. Don’t miss out.

    22. Get off the beaten track

    Of course, you should still try and do a few things off the typical tourist trail, because there’s a lot of great things to experience there too.

    The absolute best way to do this is by making a few local friends and getting them to show you a few of the hidden spots around town. Otherwise you can use apps like Trover, ask other travellers (travel forums/blogs), or just ask local people such as waiters/taxi drivers/hostel staff.

    Another good tip is to look for cities in the country that don’t have airports or train stations. They’re usually the ones less frequented by travellers and can give some unique experiences.

    23. Stay safe at all costs

    If you ever feel in danger, extract yourself immediately. You may feel stupid getting a taxi back to your hotel when it’s just a 5 minute walk away, but guess what; a whole lot of shit can happen on a 5 minute walk.

    If you see some unsavoury looking characters up ahead, don’t be afraid to just turn around and walk a different way.

    In many parts of the world, I never leave the hotel after dark if I don’t have a local male to walk with me, even if it’s just across the road to buy a Coke.

    Similarly, don’t get peer pressured into doing stupid things; there are a lot of idiot travellers out there who think they’re invincible, some of them are even looking for trouble so they have “really cool stories” to tell when they get home. Don’t be that fool.

    24. Experience everything for yourself

    No matter where you go, someone is going to have an opinion.

    “Don’t go to Vietnam, everyone’s unfriendly and you’re just going to get ripped off.”

    “Don’t go to Colombia, there’s heaps of drug dealers and it’s not safe.”

    “Don’t go to Switzerland, it’s so expensive and Berlin is cooler anyway.”

    Don’t listen to any of these people. In fact, don’t listen to anyone at all.

    Some of the coolest places I’ve been to are ones that other people hated and said would be crap. The only way to really know if you like a place is to go there and experience it for yourself.

    If someone tells you don’t need to see the sunrise at Angkor Wat, do it anyway. Maybe that person is an idiot and the sunrise will be one of your fondest memories.

    If someone tells you Thailand is overrated, go there and make up your own mind about it. When it comes to travelling, everyone’s experience is hugely different and even the bad ones are worth remembering.

    The best part of being a lone traveller is you don’t need to ask permission from a travel buddy or a girlfriend or a brother or sister. You can go anywhere you want!

    So ignore everyone else, including me. In fact, forget you even read this article at all. Go without fears or expectations, and enjoy your adventure for what it is.

    25. Make it unforgettable

    You may never be here again. Do whatever you want, as much as you want, and as long as you want. Travel is freedom. If you want to stay in Costa Rica your entire trip, do it. If you just want to lie on the beach and do nothing, do it. The world has too many rules and 99% of them are stupid. Travel is an escape. Be whoever you want. Go wherever you’ll go. Create your own adventure. In the end all that’s left are memories, so make sure they’re awesome ones.

    Just be safe, and have fun. The world is your playground!

    25 tips for your first experience as a lone traveller